SHOULD I BE UPSET MY WIFE IS LEAVING ME?

Question

MY WIFE HAS LEFT ME 4 TIMES AND I WONDER IF I SHOULD WAIT FOR HER AGAIN OR MOVE ON. WE ARGUE ALL THE TIME AND SHE IS NEVER HAPPY AND SHE ALWAYS WANTS STUFF HER OWN WAY. WE HAVE ONLY BEEN MARRIED 8 YEARS.

Answer 1

You need us to tell you what you should??

Well, my initial impression you should figure out why in the heck you'd want to go through life with all this grief??  You do know, marriage is supposed be about love & harmony?  About compromise, give & take?

To quote the patriot Patrick Henry>>

Is life so dear & peace so sweet as to be purchased at the price of human  chains & misery?  I know not what course others may take.  But as for me, give me Liberty or give me Matrimony!

Answer 2

"You've only been married 8 years"  That's something.  I'm trying to keep 3 yrs together.

The question is,

What do you want?

Does this bother you when she does this?  Does she amuse you?  Do you give in to her and let her have everything her way?

If you are or can be done with her leaving all the time don't wait.

If you aren't upset at all then that answers your question.  The marriage has been over for a while and it's time to move on.

If you're just not sure what to do, go out and be you.  Live your life like she's gone and maybe that will change her.  You have let her walk all over you it sounds like and she needs to have a little taste of her own medicine.

If you want to try again let her see how it feels and if you have moved on or met someone before she comes back then too bad.  At least you are happy.  That should be all that's important to you now.  That's all that she has cared about.  

It's your turn.

Answer 3

Sounds like she thrives on drama.  See if marriage counseling can help get her over this.  If not, then you have done everything you can to save the marriage and it just might be time then to move on.

Answer 4

if you care about her, then yeah it's expected to be upset that she leaves you.  have you tried talking about why she isn't happy, or why u always aruge?  how about marriage counselling?  she needs to learn to compromise.  marriage is supposed to be a partnership, equal say, and all that.  if she can't respect that, she doesn't deserve you.  if she keeps it up, the next time she tells you she's leaving, tell her not to come running back because that door will no longer be open.  and stick with it.

Answer 5

Well, it seems to be a pattern to get you to do what she wants. It's up to you but I would suspect that she will be like this till death do you part. Unless you decide to move. on. Don't be surprised if she cries and begs you not to go and tells you how sorry she is and how she is going to change.

Answer 6

I'm not sure what you think of the bible - but I can recall a book titled "Hosea" in the Old Testament. Hosea goes through similar trials with his wife, but the Lord instructed him: (Hosea 3:1)

"1 The LORD said to me, "Go, show your love to your wife again, though she is loved by another and is an adulteress. Love her as the LORD loves the Israelites..."

Not to say that you might equally have your reasons for the distance and separation - but someone has to make the first move to be patient and loving....but also to do it in a humble way that shows genuine love and respect.

If you love her, you will wait for her. She may not wait for you, but if you love her...

Answer 7

If you have children counseling would be a good option. Personally I think she should have counseling anyway, If you have devoted 8 years to this I would try counseling, if she refuses it might be in your best interest to move on, You deserve happiness.

Answer 8

Well if you have tried that many times let her go . If it didn't work out yet who is to say it ever will

Answer 9

Do you have any children?  If you do, I would suggest trying to make it work for their sakes.

Even if you don't, try to find a straight up, no B.S. counselor.  Sometimes a mate does not know the real source of his / her discontent.  Unfortunately, you will always be the one she dumps it on unless it becomes resolved.

God bless you & good luck.

Answer 10

You have more understanding than most individuals, most people are going to call it quits after the second separation, and no most people will not be upset on them leaving, just the fact they were stupid in wasting their time trying to repair a broken relationship.  

Answer 11

well if you really loved her then im guessing you should be upset if she is leaving you but if you never really loved her from the beginning then you shouldn't be upset. if you really don't wanna live with her anymore get a divorce and just move on with your life. you don't need someone to control your life and what you want. and if shes left you 4 times that should have told you something from day one that you shouldn't have stayed with her  

Answer 12

Move on and find someone who will make you happy. Apparently neither of you are happy in the marriage so why keep putting up with this