SHOULD I FEEL GUILTY? dad problem...?

Question

I'm 16 and my dad has never been the loving type or a person you could talk to. He works long hours, and when he comes home..he's grumpy and keeps saying that all i do is sit and go on the computer. Duh..got any better ideas? On the weekends, he drinks and it's so embarassing. My mom is mad at him half the time because he doesn't help her with the house work and he talks to her like she's stupid. She works the same amount and deserves better. Last night, I just exploded and started to cry, like always. I called him a jerk and my mom got so mad at me for some reason. She took his side and it hurt, so I called her a hypocrite. I told my dad that I don't have a father and I hated him..and if the beer eats away his liver, I won't care. I feel so guilty now and I feel like a horrible person. Should I?

Sorry it's so long, but I need help.

Answer 1

I think you should try to talk to them and tell them how you feel about them and trust me even if they dont say the right thing at the moment, they will think about it, and might change and your mom should help your dad by beeing stronger with him. Calling ur dad a jerk makes you look imature so try getting to his heart.

Answer 2

no  take it easy just go now and try to say "I'm very  sorry Dad i didn't mean that, but i think you have to take care of me "  

Answer 3

Your father may not be the best father but he is your father nonetheless.  Your mom probably got mad at you for disrespecting him the way you did.  First you should apologize to both your parents.  Tell them you have been frustrated with the way things have been going and you would like to have a good relationship with both of them.  If they are unreceptive, bide your time.  Your 16 and in two years you'll be 18.  Finish school, do well so that you can go to college, and leave.

Answer 4

Dont feel guilty you vented your feelings thats all, your Mum probably finds it easier to stick by his side than to go against him, doesnt mean she is betraying you, parent have to stick together and show a united front to the kids, its not polite to speak to him like that but once in a while is not such a biggie, try to get them at a good time and explain that the situation at home is making you unhappy and say could you all try and make an effort, you could help around the house sometimes that would take some of the pressure of them, also ask if you could do things together at the weekends even it is the housework. Every parent wants their child to be happy, so, hopefully if you explain in a controlled way how you feel things will get better.

Answer 5

I think your entitled to your feelings and sometimes they come out when we least expect them too. You should apologize, I am sure what you said hurt your dad. You have to remember that even though he drinks on the weekends, he works all week long to support you and your family. Maybe he feels unappreciated, and just needs some reassurance too.

Answer 6

HEY U NEED TO TRY TO UNDERSTAND THAT CAUSE YOUR MOM N DAD DO WORK LONG HRS,,THEY WILL B OR  JUST DAD  WILL B GRUMPY,,AND IF HE TREATS YOUR MOM BAD SHE NEEDS TO TELL HIM ABOUT IT NOT YOU,,SHE SIDED WITH HIM CAUSE IN HER OWN WAY SHE PUTS UP WITH HIM CAUSE SHE DOES LOVE HIM,N SHE DOESNT WANT U TO GE HURT,,,SO NEVER SAY ANY THING A GAIN WEN THEY GET INTO A FIGHT,,AND I F I WERE YOU I WOULD SEE ABOUT  GETING A PART TIME JOB U NO LIKE AT MICKEYDS,,  MEET  A LOT OF CUTE GUYS ,LOL       OR SOMETHING,,THEN WHEN DAD DRINKS HIS BEER ON THE WEEK ENDS U COULD B OUT EARING U SOME MONEY,,,AND YES YOU SHOULD TELL YOUR DAD YOUR SORRY AND THAT YOU DIDNT MEAN THE THINGS YOU SAID,,AND IT WOULDNT HURT YOU TO PICK UP AROUND THE HOUSE TO HELP OUT YOUR MOM,, ,,IT WILL GIVE YOU EXPERIENCE FOR WEN YOU GET YOUR OWN PLACE OR EVEN MOVE IN WITH A GIUY,,N THE GUY WILL LOVE U FOR BEING A CLEAN PERSON,,,HOPE U START TO FEEL BETTER SOON,,,PEACE

Answer 7

Maybe you should try to help a bit more with the house work and try to take a little of the load off of your moms back.If mom and dad work equal hours you really should be trying to help out, they after all are the bread and butter winners. And as far as your saying you have no father, the day you no longer have him in your life will be the saddest one. I know I lost mine. Why don't you apologize to both your mom and dad help with the chores before they come home from work, then get on the computer.You should feel guilty, what you you said was not only wrong it was disrespectful.If dad drinks only on weekends and it doesn't interfere with his work performance his family, ( besides you ) then he deserves it. He is not hurting any one but himself if if anyone at all.Tell your mom and dad your sorry and get rid of your guilt and for God sake help a little bit more than you do. You'll find you will be appreciated allot more and they will stay off of your back about the computer.

Answer 8

wait, being the youngest in my family i know when someones being bratty. I would do the same thing if that's my family. Even if you don't know it, you mom and dad know that no matter what you say or do you still love your parents unconditionally. That's why your felling guilty, because you didn't mean what you said.

Eventually your dad will come and talk to you because of course it probably hurt him when you said that but maybe it could open his eyes to what he was doing wrong and maybe he'll try to fix it. He'll come by first, but don't play hard to get apologies, accept it. But I seriously don't blame you.