SHOULD I GIVE HIS BELONGINGS BACK? HE CHEATED ON ME AND LIED OVER AND OVER AGAIN TRYING TO HIDE IT.?

Question

Its complicated, but he is divorced now. We still couldn't be together because of other reasons, but now I know it is because he moved in with another woman in the army like me. This had to be happening for approx 2 mos, and I never knew where he lived. He did live with me, and we didnt get into a fight or anything. Actually, everything was really good, but because of something out of our control, we had to pretend we werent with ea other. So when I prepped to leave, the movers took everything, including stuff that was his because he was living with me. NOW, the drama part. I found out the day I was leaving that he was hiding someone from me and lying about where he was the whole time. He was trying to keep me for later because we both reenlisted to fort lewis. He even denied having s*x with me the day prior to him taking me to the airport because he was trying to prove something false to the new booty. She knows about me and still keeps him. I don't think she is going to lewis too, but it is possible. I NEVER cheated on him. He even disprespected me and called me all types of names, and i was so good to him. Yeah, everyone has their hiccups, but he aint perfect either. I would give it back, but now that he's not even giving me any closure (as if I messed up), I feel like I am entitled to do what I want with it. I have no problems giving his sentimental things back, but he really messed up, and he should pay. Should I keep his stuff. Also, Will he get what is coming to him. I was faithfully waiting for him in my hotel... not going out, bored outta my mind, and he wouldnt even pick up my phone calls or call me some days. I didnt mess up, he did. So what now? Were not married or have any kids, thank god, but i just am at my wits end. now hes telling me to be spiteful, she will be in lewis becasue they are getting married tomorrow. HELP ME PLEASE!

Answer 1

Yes give his stuff back.1) Why have all the bad memories laying around 2) If you are both still in the Army he can make a big deal out of it to command and make things embarrassing for you by saying you stole the stuff or knowingly let the movers pack it up. Not good for the service record if you get accused of theft. Get rid of the stuff and the worthless bag of s*** that cheated on you. Hope you continue on to a great career  

Answer 2

Legally you have to at least offer to return his stuff. You cannot keep it, or get rid of it for spite, because he would be entitled to sue you for it.

And why would you even want reminders of him around you? Wouldn't it be better to get rid of him AND his stuff, so that you can move on? I have friends who are going through bad breakups, and they both say that they don't want the reminders there, hurting them every time they see them.

He's no great loss is he? He was cheating on his wife with you, and cheated on you with her. Chances are he will cheat on her too.  

Answer 3

So you want revenge and you think that will make all the pain go away and make you happy. You actually think that seeing his things in your house day after day will help you get over him and get on with your life? This guy has got some really bad Karma and believe me, you won't have to do anything for him to get what's coming to him. I feel sorry for the poor fool who is marrying him.

Tell him to come get his stuff and just be done with this guy. Next time find yourself a good man and be glad this other guy is out of your life for good.

Answer 4

Give him all his stuff  back and cut all ties with him.  This shows that you are willing to get him out of your life completely.  Keeping them won't accomplish anything as he already shows he doesn't care either way.

Answer 5

omg just get over him and give him back his stuff its his afterall .... after a month u can legally get rid of it unless u promised to keep his stuff and all well anyways just move one more to life then guys reallie come on your strong enough ^^

Answer 6

So, let's get this straight - you believe that because he cheated, you get to steal from him. Hmmm, that's a new one.

Here's a twist. Why not give his stuff back and move on with your life? You may just wake up each morning feeling....happy! Wow! Yes, that's a good idea, why didn't you think of that?