SHOULD I TELL HER THAT I HAD s*x WITH HER BOYFRIEND??

Question

hey my name is Maelina and im 14 years old. ive dated this guy for 4 months and i lost my virginity to him. after that he broke up with me and i was so hurt becuz i gave him a special part of me that i only wanted for someone that loves me and would never leave me like he told me. well i had s*x with him after we broke up.. a day before he asked another girl out. well he didnt talk 2 me the next day in school because he was with his new girl and i cried so much that day cuz he basiclly used me that night he knew he was gonna ask that girl out. well he took that girls virginity also. and now they have been dating for 5 months and 2 months ago he asked me to come over to hang out wit him soo i did i was happy he was talking to me again. soo i got there and i didnt expect this to happen but he pulled me on his couch and started unbuttoning my pants and i told him to stop he was a girlfriend and he said so.. soo i just continued with him we had s*x. and then he told me that his moms gonna be there soon so i had to leave. and now i feel bad about having him cheat on his girlfriend. he told me to not tell anyone at all. soo i didnt until today and now this girl is telling me i have to tell his girl but i dont want her to get hurt like i did it was a terrible feeling. should i tell his girlfriend????? what would you do? im scared shes gonna get girls to kick my ***. how do i tell her if i do tell her???

YES I ALREADY ASKED THIS QUESTION IN ANOTHER CATAGORY BUT I DIDNT GET MUCH ANSWERS.

Answer 1

This is why CHILDREN should not have s*x.

First of all...s*x obviously wasn't that important to you if you had s*x with this guy only 4 months of going out and then 2 more times.

It is your own fault that you got hurt.

Second of all, you SHOULD tell her..you would only hurt her if you don't.She should know that her boyfriend is a cheater.

What if your friend saw your boyfriend cheat with another girl? would you want her to tell you? think of it as the same situation.

Keep your pants buttoned until you are more mature and are also educated on s*x and all the baggage that comes with it (STDs,pregnancy etc)

Answer 2

ok , you must fell really low and awful because i think you had s*x with this guy because you thought you could get him back with you by doing so .

I'm not going to give you a lecture because i am the same age as you and i am still a virgin and i have never had an experience like this.

i understand your fears about this girl getting her friends to beat you up , but this guy seems no good . i think you should warn his girlfriend that he had s*x with you the day before he asked her out , but don't mention the s*x you had whilst he was going out with her . that way , you get justice and that guy gets what he deserves , the girl and other girls in the future will be aware of what he is like

good luck ! x*x

Answer 3

Well one he is using you so i suggest you stop talking to him and I'm not sure if you should tell her  

Answer 4

Loooooolllllll.............. You are so lucky that you didn't get attacked by flying beavers! :p

You should just keep your legs closed next time, thats all... :l

Answer 5

ur an easy girl thats y he calls u for u should get sumone to beat him up and forget about him date new guys and ur young dont take them seriously. about his girl just 4 get it its her fault for being with him just forget about it okkk  

Answer 6

he has his way around you that's why you fall for him and if your really cared about the other girl you wouldn't have had s*x. so don't make it an excuse and if you tell her she will probably tell you off.

Answer 7

ok you make nooooo sense. why would you have s*x after dating a guy for only four months when your 14. ok honey look you may think your in love after four months of dating but trust me it takess wayyyyyy longer then that to gain trust. and then you felt so used cuz he broke up with you. so why did you go and have s*x with him again. TWICE!!!  seriously your the dumb hoe that put yourself in this position now YOU figure out how to get out of it.

my suggestion. stop talking to this guy because you WILL end up having s*x with him again i garrantee it.

Answer 8

Well this guy sounds much older... but yes i would tell her, if he hurt you real bad, you don't want him to just keep doing it to all kinds of girls because more than likely h**l break up with this girl  to and then get with someone else and just cheat on them to. So you should just put a stop to his games.  She might not even believe you if you do tell her but its worth a try. If you were still dating him and he cheated on you wouldent you want the girl he cheated on you with to tell you...

Answer 9

he is taking advantage of u i no how that feels and it can lead to bad things it can really mess u up if things go really wrong don't let him do that to u anymore don't have s*x with him wait for someone better when ur older it is up to u to tell her or not

Answer 10

Ahaha kids these days..  

Answer 11

Oh c**p your in a messy situation aren't you? :/

If I was you I would leave it and try to forget about it! But then again I am a wuss!

Im sorry Im not much help here!

xoxo

Answer 12

talk to him and clear things up

tell him that he shouldn't be messing around with you while he's got a girl.

I think you should tell her.

Answer 13

The other girl makes no difference, if you tell her you will, most likely,  add more drama to deal with on your own.  The true issue is with yourself.  You are seeking something you need emotionally by having s*x, and you are never going to find it, no matter how many times you do it.  

Sexual urges are one thing, but to control those urges with the realization that you are worth more than a booty call, takes maturity and the ability to think about yourself first when it comes to the consequences of giving in.  There are obviously physical ramifications for not being responsible when having s*x (unwanted pregnancy, stds), but there are also huge emotional consequences as well.  You are suffering from them now.  You gave into urges expecting a certain result, and when that did not happen, you became angry at giving in and want to feel better by letting everyone know that you were a "victim".  This is likely to embarrass you further because he will probably say it never happened, and this other girl may feel she is "in love" and having you come forward will make her want to "stand by her man".  

Learn to love yourself, you don't need to bargain s*x for attention from anyone.  You are worth much more than that.  

Answer 14

it was wrong that you did do that but he will probably tell her himself when they eventually break up(he is most likely gonna s***w her over)

somethings i think should remain a secret. but if you do end up telling her just be like im sorry to tell you this and blah blah it was a mistake i didnt mean for it to happen etc etc

Answer 15

First off at 14 how can you expect to find "the one"? Sorry, but that was very niave to think he would never leave you, so you gave it up to him. 2nd, you are just way too young to be engaging in risky behavior and back stabbing your friend. You should feel bad, you've done wrong to both you and your friend. And if you do get your butt whooped, I hope it'll teach you not to do it again.

Answer 16

You're too young to be popping out babies.

Answer 17

you or someone else should tell this girl, her feelings are going to  be hurt by this boy sooner or later so it's best to let her know what she's got herself into. if this boy is going behind her back with you theres no telling how many others there have been or still are, so anyone who goes with him is at a high risk of catching a number of transmitted infections if protection isn't used, not saying you didn't use protection but he sounds very irresponsible so you don't know if he uses anything with other girls, so she does need to know what kind of person she's with, she doesn't have to know that you have been with him, but she needs to know he's cheating