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SUPER STRICT PARENTS!?! HELP????

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YES....azn parents -_- what on earth are you going to do with them? my parents...*sighhhh* well on top of that. i have a ton of chinese friends and even THEIR parents aren't close to being as bad as mine. i mean my dad and mom say i'm old enough to work and give me these large annoying responsibilties, like wroking at my dad's office.(etc) but they wont let me hang out, or anything. well my parents always said that when they were younger, they had to suffer jsut to give us a better life and say how spoiled we are and how we get to live a better life and all. on top of that, they say that when they were young, they never had any friends to play with since they were always working.(it's a different time period for me -_- so shouldnt i get to live differently. and on top of that they say they want a better life for us. isnt this kinda of contradicting it?) -_-ll typical chinese parents tactics to use against their own kid's arguements. ( and yes..those were only the few so called tactics my parents use againt me. i'll list out the rest after i finish with this paragraph.) i havent even been to one bday party ever since i was born and i knew most of my friends for more then 8 years. im 14 -_-ll yea...im like a freshmen in hs already -_-ll and i could already tell in the future that things will definitely not change. and nope...they already made it clear that i'm not allowed to get a boyfriend til after i graduate hs (which in my case is beyond ridiculous since the hs im going to is well...has a lot of boys and girls in it ;D)my parents are stubborn. trust me i know. if things dont go their way, they'll find a way to make it go their way. i'm so serious...i cant take it anymore. they say that they dont want me to suffer like they did when they were younger but I'm suffering now under all this mentallity. havent people ever heard of the fact that some people can go haywire due to this type of treatment and pressure?

~ahh..yes. i will now tell you their other tactics:

-for school--> they say i go to school for my own education and i'm not doing it for them but im doing it for myself, for my own future. (i have to say, their just ssaying that cuz i'm getting good grades in school. but if i didnt get the good graades, i beg to differ their responsed)

-hanging out--> "its dangerous there! dont you noe that there are rapists running around? havent you been listening to the news recently? and what if something happened to you? what do you think that would do to us? anyways. i dont care if your friends do things that are different from what you do. you live under my roof so idc. you must follow my rules.

-when i throw a fit (silent treatment, etc[not serious stuff...i wouldnt dare -_-ll])--> "do you see how hard we work and you guys dont ven appreciate it! all of you are so spoiled. we take so good care of you guys and all that you guys want is more stuff!!! look at us. we are at the brink of breaking down. and on top of that we dont need your attitude to drag us down even more. (here comes the threatening part) if this is the way you are going to be, i will take away your comp, phone, mp3, etc [all privileges -_-ll]

and now-->

tactics i've tried to use on them but failed:

-try talking to them

-asking them to go after being super duper good for an entire week or more

-mega respect

i cant take it anymore...i dont want my hs years to be like this. more over. i already have the feeling...my college years wont be any different. trust me, my parents will faind a way to make me go to a college near home....-_-

like i said...i cant take it anymore....help me please

ahh yes...and on top of that..they always say family first before friends....uhhh, why would you need friends when you already have family? -_- and....family is alays there for you but friends arent -_- (which particularly isnt true;P)

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  1. nothing you can do, until you leave that house. i have strict asians parents too, but i always disobey them. tell them I'm going to the library but actually hanging out with friends. in the middle of the night, jumping out of my window to go to the movies. don't want to influence you, but after hs, you got your whole life to live on your own..enjoy spending time with the fam even though they are strict. im living on my own now, and it only been a few months and i already miss my fam. so absorb "the family" because as years goes on, you seee them less and less.  


  2. i now how you feel my parents say they do it cause they love me idk either

  3. tell them that what they are doing is not making you happy and that it is loosing an opportunity to go out in the world and have even a little bit of fun.

  4. Your parents love you and want you to grow up with values and respect and want you to excel and do your very best at everything.... what is wrong with that?  They are afraid for you because today's world is full of so many things that could hurt you .....  You are only 14 and right now, you are just sounding like every other kid who wants to spread his or her wings a tad too early.... give your parents some slack... they were probably brought up OLD SCHOOL CHINESE and had even stricter parents then THEY are being with you...  No parent is perfect and you kids do NOT come with manuals  so give them a break... they may seem strict to you NOW,  but if you grow up to be a successful, productive adult, you will thank them for being strict now....with time, they may relax some of their rules, but NOT if you rebel against them.... you will probably have to ACT mature to be TREATED maturely.....   Be grateful you have parents who care SO much for you---there are a lot of kids out there whos parents don't care at all.....

  5. wow..

    that kinda sounded like a diary entry

    but ya.. that sucks a lot!

    but i guess they are just really, really, REALLY, protective of you.

  6. their not just strict their completely insane

    I'm not sure what you should do but being nice isnt going to work

    you will just have to lie about the stuff you do, if you can even get out of the house  

  7. i would run away to another city and claim to be an orphan

  8. WOW!! same thing with me especially the 2nd paragraph down!!

    yeah I was supposed to go to a college In another state with all of my friends... what do you know... I'm going  to one right down the street from my house... I hate it how they think they are helping us when really there killing us it's HORRIBLE!!! sorry I don't know how to help without hurting there feelings :[[ hope things change for you  

  9. MY PARENTS ARE MORE STRICT!!

    I'm KEEP IN THE HOUSE NEVER TO GET OUT ONLY WHEN THE'RE EVENTS!!!

    I'M HOMESCHOOL  NEVER TO HAVE FRIENDS AND MIGGLE WITH CLASS MATES CUZ DUH HOME SCHOOL!!!

    I'm Like a doll put on display,

    any I have asian parents too,

    good luck..

  10. Live with it for a few more years. Once your 18 move out and live with one of your friends. Once your 18 you are legal to do what ever you want, they cant stop you.

    Or, you could convince your family to go see a family counselor. If your parents are really ( i mean really) as bad as you describe them then the family counselor will tell them to back off of you and let you live your high school life.

    Allways remeber your folks love you, they dont do the things they do to be mean to you, they do them because they want the best for you.

    Good luck!


  11. just say you tried drugs at school then after that anything you do wont seem as bad

  12. Girlfriend Im sorry too say with these type of parents nothing works. I had  the same problem. You just gotta live with it till your 18 or go to college and then get the heck out. Make sure you prepare ahead of time by saving up money doing research on where your gonna live and how much everything is gonna cost. Have a car and make sure its registered under your name not your parents. Basically just have a plan together for when its time. You will still be plenty young when you are 18 and will have plenty of time to hang out and do whatever you want. Just be safe and dont get in to trouble. Good luck :)

  13. wow your going to have such a boring highschool life. no friends nuthing. maybe start your own journal. they will secretly read it. every day right these possitive things like i had so much fun with my brothers and sisters. and all that good stuff. then one day jusut say on your paper all that you said on here but in the beggining put ive been holding itin for so long. your parents will secretly be reading this diary for 3 weeks. when they see this it will be a reality check. they cant tell you they read it but you will know cuz it is always tilted a differnt way when you come home from school. then they will realize you arnt just a little girl any more and they will slowly or drastically change for the better and you willpretend that you are happy and suprized but secretly are the smartest person alive. also throw in this blow up diary entry that you arnt little and your parents need to let go a tad and that you understand oh so much that they are under pressure at work and that you respect them so much that they are taking care of you and also when you are 18 and it is time for college who cares if they want you close...i would get as far away as possible because it is your choice.

    -lexa

    P.S. rememer not to treat your kids like this when you are older. because you gotto remember how you felt. also it never hurts what they dont know.. i ket a boyfriend behing my parents back for 1 year then i broke up with him and they still dont even know. you just have to be good at not getting caught.

  14. Lol, sounds familiar, you sure your not my sister or something?

    Anyways, yah strict parents sorta suck, thats why you be more secretive with stuff like bf :). The hanging out part sorta sucks, but if its just going to a friends house then you should let them meet your friends so they can get some trust first. Also try and make some deals with them, like if you do better in school they'll give you more freedom? Or something like that lol. Good luck but life might be hard for a while, hopefully you'll be able to thank them in the future for making your life a living h**l (my parents keep telling me I'll end up thanking them for some reason , lol).

  15. I kinda feel the same my parents are like yours it pisses me off

  16. hey

    i dunno why it wouldnt let me post my answer on here

    maybe it was too long

    and i realyl wnted to respond..

    so i created another question on yahoo answers with my response in it

    heres hte link:

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  17. Tell your parents that you are depressed and they will take you to therapy and after you tell the therapist all of this ask them to talk to your parents and then your parents might change if all of this is coming from another adult and look on the bright side, at least you have friends, I lost all of my friends because we just kind of drifted apart

  18. its to long make it shorter and i might go out   wit you babe ;)

  19. Your parents of love you and don't

    want to lose you..

    they are scared because of this wicked world

    we live in.

    Sometimes we just have to let go

    even Im learning that..

    Maybe you can ask them

    How can I get a chance to go

    see my friends for a couple of hours?

    maybe you should ask on small things

    like out front then move to the conner store

    then eventually work your way to asking to

    go to the mall gaining them on the little things

    "If your faithful on the little things you'll

    be faithful in the greater things."

    (the bible)

    it hard ..Ive been sort of there when

    I was a child however I soon grew up

    and now I can see things a whole lot different

    through a parents eyes.

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