Sad.. please help.. anyone?

Question

okay well i am 13 and my father died a year ago.. ever since hes been gone nothing feels the same. the day he died i remember him saying "i love you" but i just ignored him and ran to the bus. i feel horrible and i cant find anyone who really understands how this feels. any help..? please just someone.

Answer 1

well just be thankfully you knew your dad and just remember him everyday and live your life the way he would have wanted you to live which is happy

my dad passed away when i was 3 months old so i never knew him and i know what you mean when you say nothing feels the same because it feels like a part of you is gone and you cant do anything to get that back

just be happy and just know that he is watching down on you

Answer 2

Hi this is really upsetting and I am very sorry to hear this.

Losing a loved one is so sad and sometimes you will never recover. I have never experienced losing someone so close to me but im sure it is horrible. You did nothing to cause your fathers death so dont regret anything because even though you ran away im sure he knew you were upset.

I am always hear if you need someone to talk to and im very sry about what happened =(

Answer 3

im really sorry to hear that ...theres not much I can do but with time your heart will heal and the pain will be less.

have you ever thought about giving your life to God?

maybe this could be an option....

think about it because God is the way the the truth and the light!

dont blame your self for running to the busstop because you cant reverse time, just learn from what happened and appreciate people (Im not saying that you didnt appreciate your father)but just try to see the love wneh people say thet they love you now and dont take it for granted(not that I'm saying you took it for granted, again)

maybe you could make somthing in his memory like a collage or video or just somthing that you know he would have loved, that wont take the pain away but it will keep you occupied feel a bit better

I'm not gonna lie I havnt experienced this type of thig before but I know it hurts and all I can do is pray for you and just tell you about God.

dont knowif you are already a Bornagain Christian but here is some more info

http://www.howtogetsaved.net/

hope this helps

cherrys

Answer 4

When you have a fight with someone you love like your parents or you ignore them, a parent is responsible enough and knows it is just a phase. Forget about that by keeping your mind of it, help your mum at home, read, watch movies and talk to people. Remember it is not your fault he died. I can understand you thinking that though. Mabey talk to your mum or a trusted adult or teacher. Good luck!  

Answer 5

aww when i read that i almost cried you had no idea anything was going to happen so dont regret the past just pray and let him know that you love him even though you ran he still knows that ...feel better

Answer 6

I can't say I know how it feels but I can say this.

Even though you didnt tell him you love him he knows you do. A parent dying can be hard but they never really leave you. He loves you very much and he knows you love him. You shouldn't feel horrible. Your father wouldn't want you to. He would want you to move on

Answer 7

Im sorry wow I dont know what to say. Hang in there.

Answer 8

I'm sorry to hear. What his and your last words were to each other does not define an entire relationship with the person. I'm sure he knows you love him very much, and vice versa.

Answer 9

A parent KNOWS their childrens love. Even if you had a fight with them, A parents love us unconditional. You are still going through the grief stage of your lose of your father. And one grief stage is guilt...You are remembering things you THINK should have done, but didn't...thats normal and will heal over time. You may have not said "I love you back" but parents KNOW! I am a parent of three sons ages 12, 8 and 2 and even though they are mad at me at times, even though they forget to tell me "love you" I know they love me.

try to remember the good times you shared, meals you had together, birthdays and holidays. As time goes by you will heal, never forget, but it will get easier later on.  

Answer 10

I cant 100% relate with how you are feeling but I know its hard. My pop died 2 years ago and I still am not over it, he was my inspiration I loved him with all my heart. The thing with me is that I knew he was dying, he called my mum and I was home he said "twinny (thats what he called my mum cause she a twin), Im not going to make it this time" they talked for a while and he asked to talk to me, to make everything right (he had done some hurtful things in the past (nothing sick, just walking out on his family and stuff) and he wanted to make sure I forgave him. Thing is I was in so much pain thinking of losing him that it hurt too much to talk to him and I never said good bye. I beat myself up constantly over this (I was 15 when it happened) and I can't seem to move on. I was the first to cry at his funeral and I cried every night for about a year after it. It still hurts to think about it but I wrote him a letter, explaining everything to him, that I love him, I forgive him and I know he will always be watching over me, then on a significant day for me (my 16th birthday) I went to the beach and burnt it, I sat for hours with my mum just watching the smoke from our little fire and we talked about him, nothing bad, just the wonderful things he had done with his life, his kids, his grand kids, I wrote 3 poems to him, 1 for every chance I had to say goodbye. and once I had closure that he knew, I felt better, it's been a year since then and nothing feels the same, it never will, dont let any one tell you to move on or forget him. make something, write a poem, paint a picture etc. or plant something, or dedicate a star to him, when my nanny died my nan took me outside that night and said "see that shining star, thats nanny and she is watching us from up there now, she will always be in our hearts and always exploring the wonders of the world some where no one can hurt her." i was 6 then but it still makes me feel better.

I know you feel like no one understands. but email me if you want to talk. I will listen and help as much as I can. just believe that your dad knew that you love him and he still does, every time you cry he is watching wishing he could hold you and make it better. I'm sure he was an amazing person  and you need to try to focus on positives so that you can achieve great things and make him proud.

Answer 11

my dad died when I was a teenager and he was in the hospital bed  and was being loving with me and I had the urge to take his hand and kiss it out of respect and to respond to his nice words but I didn't because what I felt was a private moment for me and my dad was invaded by a relative being in the room.  I felt regret over that.  I never really spoke of my pain over loosing my dad and it took me 7hrs to be able to make peace with it.  It was not until I let myself enjoy the memory of him instead of thinking only of his death that I got over it.  I bought I piece of bread and a bottle water and took it to his grave....   I broke the bread in half and put one half on his grave and ate the other and I poured water to him and drank the rest.  I went to have a moment with him and spoke to him in my heart.  I do this when I can and talk about him whenever a thought of him comes to my mind which is pretty often.  hopefully by me telling you this it won't take you 7hrs because otherwise it does affect the way you view life and the relationships you'll have and you'll be able to be more expressive with living family member as well as with the memories of the family members you've lost.

Answer 12

First  except death as a processes of nature.Many a times feelings and spoken words are not corresponding.You are very young and you are in a state of grief. So you have isolated your self from the changing surrounding.In the ever changing universe you need to change also.Think positive and get on to your daily work

I can see you to be intellectual some day Just remember an intellectual griefs neither for the living nor dead

Answer 13

It's okay to feel bad about the past, but at the same time, you should not dwell on it.  What's done is done, there's no point in looking for fault or blame, and what's important is to look to the future and see what you can do to make life better there.

I'm a father of a little girl (younger than you), and when I tell her I love her, it means that I want her to have the very best life possible.  No matter what happens, no matter what she does, that is my wish for her.  I'm sure your father felt the same.

Answer 14

Don't be sad, even when things are different, you're still his little girl. Just think on those wonderful moments you two spend together. When you remember his smile, smile back, when you remember some advice he give you, thank him quietly. Every night blow a kiss to the heaven's and dedicate it to him. Never refer to him in past tense, and behave as if he where around the corner.

And last but not less important, keep loving him to the last of your days.  

Answer 15

you luckier than me,my father died when I am just 9 year old, and he dose not said something to me,because when he died I am not near him. What I am want say to you is, be a good girl, so many girl in this world have same story just like you,and I one of them. If I can continiu my life why not you. God must be have good plan to your life. Dont give up on your life, Ok! May God alwys with you.