Saleman flirts with my wife?

Question

Last month at the shoe store, I was surprised by the way a salesman flirted with my wife and the way she reacted to it. She actually seemed comfortable with his flirting and allowed him to hold her foot in his hand for long moments as he helped her try different shoes. At other times he kept his hand on her knees or putting his hand on her waist when she would try the shoes in front of the mirror. My reaction to that is I got immensely aroused and I have not stopped fantasizing about this guy actually making it with my wife. I was really taken aback by my reacion and these images keep playing in my mind. I would like other people to help me understand my reaction. Why would I want this guy to have his way with my wife and successful bed her? It is also worth mentioning that the salesman was really good looking. I am also interested in knowing what goes in a woman's mind in moments like this. Would anything more have happened if I was not around on that day? Would my wife try to go to the store again on her own to try more shoes, and try to meet with the guy in my absence?

Answer 1

my you have an active imagination

Answer 2

My thoughts would be "gee i hope i find a pair of shoes I like that aren't too expensive". But contrary to popular belief, we women all have seperate minds, not one collective one :P so i don't know what was going through your wifes mind but I do know the guy is there to help people try on shoes...it's his job.  Could it be you were seeing or perhaps fantasizing about something that wasn't happening?  

It probably turned you on to know you have a wife that other males find attractive.  As for what would have happened if you hadn't been there, I'm guessing nothing. I rarely have s*x openly with salesmen in shoe stores, call me crazy. Will she go back and try to hook up with him without you? Well, only if she has no morals!  

Answer 3

Rick you seriously need help, a wife is a mans property and no one should put there hands on her. As for your wife allowing this man to put his hands on her should be ashamed of herself! you both need help ASAP!

Answer 4

You fanasized about Al Bundy doing your wife?  Cool

Answer 5

So what.. Im dealing with the sales men all the time at work.. no big deal..

RELAX.. you are overreacting..

Answer 6

my husband likes it when a guy takes notice to me.. so I think that is completely normal.  For me, I like the attention but that is all.  I would never go out of my way to see him again or try to get together.. If someone does think that way then that is cheating and definitely not healthy.

Answer 7

That is a common fantasy among many men..don`t feel bad about it, but to act on it may mean the end of your marriage. Read up about cuckold husbands and see what you may get yourself into.

Answer 8

yes & no. she may have enjoyed it. she may also enjoy seeking it out from time to time. she may even act on it. however, it was the sale mans job to make her feel like the most amazing woman buying shoes 2day. I think it is neat that it arouses you, most people would be jealous. maybe you could tell her & both of you can make flirtatious things happen with strangers as foreplay then go home & enjoy the rush :) have fun.

Answer 9

"Cuckhold Tuesday" here on Yahoo Answers is TOMORROW.

You are a day early.

Come back tomorrow.

Oh, and by the way, no woman in her RIGHT mind would want to hook up with a LOSER that sells shoes for a living.

Answer 10

There are a lot of guys who get turned on by men's reactions to their mate.  It's an ego booster to know that someone besides you thinks your wife is "hot."  Also if voyeurism turns you on, talk to your wife about it, you never know how she may feel about that.  It may turn her on just as much as you.  You can't sit and worry that your wife is cheating on you with the shoe salesmen she was flirting with, that would drive you insane.  That is unless she's given you reason to think that she has stepped out on you.  My bf and I talk all the time about how ppl may flirt with him or me when we are together and laugh about it.  He loves it when men check me out and we are together, it makes me feel good too ;-)  

Answer 11

More than likely,if you weren't around, more may have happened.Like more flirting,or a foot message or something, who knows.She would probably go to the store back again, knowing the attention she got from him.Some people like seeing their spouse being involved with another person.Just like how some females like going to the strip clubs with their man to watch him get lap dances.They just enjoy it.

Answer 12

Some people have fantasies they love, but when they live that fantasy it's not what they imagined and they aren't so okay with it anymore.

Just because you got aroused by the idea of someone else with your wife, doesn't mean you'd actually be able to handle it in real life. Be VERY careful about taking a situation from the fantasy realm (harmless) and making it a reality. If it backfires, it could ruin your relationship.

As for what might have happened had you not been around (if your story is even true. It sounds like fantasy) no one can say, because we cannot read minds or see alternate futures in our crystal balls. Sorry.

Answer 13

My husband is usually good about it when men flirt with me.  But his patience has limits, too.  A man once brushed himself against me suggestively, my husband butted in.  The look on his eyes were enough to have that sick run away in fear.  

Answer 14

The salesman validated your feelings for your wife. He found her attractive and worthy of being sexually attracted to. Whether we think so or not we all, no matter how much we love our spouses, we like the fact that  people reinforce to us that we made a good choice.

Obviously, by the salesman being good looking it reaffirms your idea of yourself as a good looking guy as well. After all, if he was ugly and your wife enjoyed his flirtations you would probably be creeped out a bit.

Furthermore, the aspect of you fantasizing about the two in bed is another reflection of what you subconsciously think of you and your wife in bed. You think of you two as a good looking couple enjoying a loving relationship. That is why you were turned on.

Answer 15

re: I would like other people to help me understand my reaction.

.....You like many others are just suffering with inadequate self worth/regard or poor self esteem.  You just need to build up your self regard and then what others do won't affect you so much or you will learn how to deal with them........

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