Same question with different details. Is it o.k. for my son's father to date his preschool teacher?

Question

A lot of people answered the 1st time I asked this and I think I need to clarify some things. My son's dad doesn't need my permission to date someone, but I would expect he would get my permission before he dated a woman we have a mutual relationship with......our son's teacher. Also, I actually like the woman. She's very sweet and smart and my son likes her a lot, but this is his teacher. What if they break up? Will she take this out on our son? Is it appropriate that when he spends the night while he's visiting Daddy, he wakes up (because he always wakes up very very very early) and sees the teacher half dressed? My son's father has had other girlfriends in the past and it doesn't bother me at all......but the teacher thing is KILLING ME!

Answer 1

If I were the teacher I wouldn't have agreed to the date in the first place, I think that she should be using better judgment. Perhaps when your son is no longer in her class than they could begin dating, but I think it is a definite conflict of interests and very unprofessional on her part.

Answer 2

As a former teacher, I don't think it would be appropriate at all for a teacher to date a student's parent.  It is a huge conflict of interest.  You are justified in your feelings and you have very valid points and concerns about the issue.

Answer 3

What a sticky situation!

I can understand your feelings, this really is inappropriate for any teacher/parent.

If this really bothers you you can remove your child from this center.

request that he be moved into another room.

even go so far as talk to the teacher and tell her your concerns.

Be up front and honest as to why it bothers you.

Ultimately it is their decision to date or not but you can decide what's best for your child and any center or teacher worth their salt will see it that way.

Answer 4

As a preschool & primary school teacher, yes some of the fathers are single fathers & man are they d**n right gorgeous but I would never date anyone of them.Reason been if that child has a problem how you gonna tell the father,or you gonna favour the child more than anyone else in the class. I just think its wrong

Answer 5

straight up tell your ex that dating his sons teacher is disrespectful to his son maybe after your son has moved on from her class, but no way in h**l,

Answer 6

I think it is fine, but no sleepovers with the teacher until your son is out of preschool.

Answer 7

I think it would be rather awkward. You're no longer with him for a reason... so would he do the same thing to the teacher? I think the whole situation stinks and if they do break up...even more awkward! You probably can't do much about it but tell him how you feel!

Answer 8

if you are trully worried about your son and it isn't mere jealous driving you t the wall then check if the teacher's conduct is acceptable within the school's regulations. there should be a way it can be stopped.

Answer 9

I don't think there is a thing you can do about this situation.