Save the Dates for single people: should I put "and guest" on the envelope?

Question

And what about people in relationships, but who are not married, engaged or living together...what do I do for Save the Dates? Do I put the significant other's name on the envelope, even though they live separately?

Thanks for your input!

Answer 1

If the couple is in a serious relationship where they are expected to be together to attend your wedding, address it to both people.  

For example:

John Smith and Susan Johnson

1 Some Street

Villiagetown, GA  12345

My boyfriend and I have also received invitations (while we were not living together) that read:

Joseph Greene and Gretchen

25 Tree Rd

Sometown, MA 05555

If they are not serious enough that you believe both will be attending the wedding, why bother inviting a guest?  I am of the opinion that there should be NO strangers at a wedding.  Every person there should know the bride and/or groom.  I wouldn't invite guests I didn't know!

Answer 2

If you are inviting a person's significant other, you should put both of the names on the card, whether they are living together or not.  You are only obligated to invite the guests if they are in a long-term/serious relationship.  It is up to you.

Answer 3

It's nice to allow a friend to bring a date to the wedding, so yes, include "and guest."  As for the couples, if you are friends with both of them, put both of their names.  If you are mostly friends with the woman, for example, put her name and "guest" so that should she and her man break up she can bring a new date.

Answer 4

i think you should include guest

Answer 5

For single people, no need to put "and guest" on the save the date. On the actual invitation would be appropriate.

For couples living together, put both names on the front.

For couples not living together, send one to each of them (or to one of them, with both names on the front - I know some couples who prefer to get "one" invitation/save the date/thank you note this way). Your call. But either is ok, I would think.

Answer 6

Tradition says that you put "and guest" on the invitation, but if you know that person's name, you can certainly write it.

But putting "and guest" is nice because, if the invitee's boyfriend/girlfriend can't come, that person can invite another friend or family member so they won't be hanging out solo all night.

Answer 7

If they're married or living together, both names.

If it is a single friend, or someone you know that is casually dating, their name "and guest"

But yes, it is proper that if you are going to do "and guest" for some guests, you do it for all... You don't to hear nonsense like "but Jane got to bring a date, why didn't I get too!?"