Saw on TV, why do couples spend so much effort and money trying to adopt babies?

Question

Is it because of specifically newly born? Is it difficult to adopt older kids in orphanage or foster care or are they a dime a dozen?

Answer 1

I am a loving mom to one by birth, three by adoption as toddlers...and still there are days I would love to have a young infant in my arms.

Motherly instinct.

And it's not just the white infant I imagine cradled in my arms either. There are days I would love for the child to have moca skin like several of my girls, or Pacific Islander and then other days I see a blue eyed toe head and dream of ringlets in his hair. Simply the thought of an infant that I can meet his every need.

We shouldn't shame or put down parents who want to adopt a child - regardless of age. It's not an easy road to take. In fact, we are analyzed by people we don't even know to prove ourselves worthy of raising children. How many parents who give birth are required to fill out an inch of paperwork, have their finances reviewed and have professional psyc evaluations conducted before they are allowed to take their child home?

Answer 2

Generally most people when they adopt try to seek out a baby or toddler. There is this unfair stigma in the adoption world that older children or pre teens or teens are "damaged goods". Another thing that I have noticed is that the popular thing is to adopt from Korea and China and Eastern Europe.  For example one of my best friends when I was growing up was a Korean who along with his fraternal twin sister were adopted by a white upper middle class family. They in turn had a younger sister who was adopted from Romania. (althought his parents originally wanted to adopt another child from Korea as they felt it would make them feel like they were "true siblings" by having a comman backround.)

I think the main reason why many prefer to adopt internationaly is the fear that the birth mother might come out of the wood works and try to get her son or daughter back or a least meddle in the lives of the adopted family.

Answer 3

Well for me, if I can't have children, I would want to adopt a newborn.  Only because I've known families that adopted oder kids and they had alot of emotional problems.  One specific family I knew, the child was saying that her parents were beating her (which is an absolutel lie) and the court took all of the kids away.  I woud spend as much money as it takes to adopt a child though if I was unable to have children.  No doubt about it!

Answer 4

Wow...dime a dozen, huh?  I'd never thought of our future kids that way.  But yes, many people do spend a fortune on adopting "the perfect white baby" when there are wonderful, amazing little individuals waiting in foster care.  They are not perfect, but I assure you, the newborns aren't, either.  They're all beautifully imperfect, blessedly cracked human beings...who need homes.

Answer 5

Don't really know . I m a bm and no money ever came into my hands.

Answer 6

because the older ones have too many problems and inexperienced parents will only compound them. newborns are easier to deal with because you can raise them from day one and deal with all of their problems as they come up.

at least they aren't contributing to the overpopulation issue.

Answer 7

When you adopt a very young child or baby it allows you to bring them up as your own with the beliefs & qualities that are most important too you.  When you adopt an older child many of these things have already been developed.  They may also have had experiences that make it very difficult to trust adults.

Answer 8

Same reason that couples that cannot conceive will also spend thousands of dollars at fertility clinics  to try and conceive.- they want a baby

Answer 9

it's trendy.

pap's sometimes think they can get away with passing the kid off as theirs.

not ALL pap's.  some.

Answer 10

I think part of wanting to be a mother is wanting to raise them from birth, go through all the stages and firsts with them.

Answer 11

Every child - regardless of age - deserves a loving and safe home.

Answer 12

Some couples do want newborns, but generally adopting a newborn from ones own country only costs the amount of legal fees... if it is more than that, there is something fishy going on.

Kids from foster care are the same situation, but I think a lot of people fear adopting children from foster care because they can come with baggage.

Kids from orphanages are usually international adoptions, and they can cost over $15 000.00, but people generally go that route because it takes less time (although more money) then adopting a newborn in North America.