Say a family adopted a child could their real child date the adopted child and where would they stand?

Question

the family has a son but they adopt a daughter and the son and daughter has feelings for each other. could they get together or would it possibly be better if the daughter was only fostered?

Answer 1

Its been known to happen before. Not my cup of tea.

Answer 2

That is not right. They are brother and sister and its not up to the parents to say oh we will just fostor you so you can date. Get real. Why would you even think its ok.

Answer 3

If she becomes legally adopted, the courts wouldn't allow a marriage because they'll be legal brother and sister with the same legal parents and the same last name.

Answer 4

I don't see the problem, it is not like they are blood relations.  They should go for it.

Answer 5

You say that they have known each other for about 2 weeks. Depending on their age and how much longer they plan on living as siblings I think would play a big part in this. My brother married my step sister, 20 years after the fact. They both had moved on and married others and one day met in a store. They seem happy, but they are grown adults. They had feelings for each other 20 years ago and obviously still do. I guess what I'm getting at is you can't control the heart. You can control your actions but not the heart. Technically they are not blood related and by law it should be fine as long as they are of consenting age. If they are young and are going to be around each other for years to come as siblings then someone needs to address the issue, either them or the parents. Who knows they may do all the right things and still end up married 20 years down the road.

Answer 6

ever hear of incest? you can't date your sibling, its wrong.

Answer 7

Ick!  The whole story smacks of incest.  It's not just about who you are biologically related to but who is emotionally close to you with familial ties.  And abuse of power.  The law is clear, they're related - and morally its pretty clear too.

ICK!

Answer 8

if they were raised together for most of their lives (like brother and sister) that is just creepy. there are plenty of other fish in sea so they just need to go fishin

Answer 9

uh no thats still incest

Answer 10

If the family actually adopted, the relationship is considered illegal.  There is no exception if they happen not to be biological siblings.

Answer 11

No they couldn’t because they are legally siblings.  If the child was a foster it wouldn’t be appropriate either I no doubt if something did happen the foster would be straightaway assigned to a new foster family.  

Has it happened yes, even step-siblings, heck cousins have gotten together as close as first cousins. Many countries actual allow first cousins to marry.  I could more understand if they hadnt grown up as siblings and the person was adopted into the family in their late teens. I still wouldn’t think it was cool and even in that case its not like they could ever get married because they are legally siblings.  But I could be more understanding then say if a couple had a 2 year old son, adopted an 8mo old baby girl, and they were raised from that young age as siblings.

Answer 12

if they are not blood related then yes, but on that same token, if the parents are teaching them right from the start and keeping an eye on them then they need to give the children counseling, they are now brother and sister no matter how they got that way. its just sick to think a brother and sister dating is right. thats for the deep south lol

Answer 13

Ethically?  Morally?  I think it would be wrong on MANY levels.

My a-brother and I are both adopted but there's no way I'd EVER look at him as somebody I would date.  He's my brother.  While not physically related, legally we are, and mentally we are, too.

Ick.

Answer 14

It's a touchy situation. You don't mention how old the daughter is. You say they've only known each other for a couple of weeks?  If this is true, they haven't had an opportunity to form a bond as brother and sister.  An emotional bond doesn't "automatically" develop because of a piece of paper.  An alternate example that comes to mind is when two people become step-siblings because their parents marry. Much depends on the age of the "new" siblings at the time their parents get together.  

As an adoptee who grew up with my brothers, I can't imagine having anything BUT a brother-sister relationship.  However, my situation isn't the same as if I'd meet a new "brother", say, when I was a teenager.  YIKES.  That complicates things, doesn't it?!  

The best advice I can offer is, "Proceed with caution".  If she's newly in this family, emotions can be all over the map and very confusing.  If possible, she should find a good counselor to sort out her emotions.    

Good luck~