Saying what you want to say?

Question

Does anyone have an idea of how to develop a sense of candor? I have become quite adapt to 'beating around the bush' in conversations with lengthy responses, that I miss being able to simply think and speak with frankness. Its almost as if I will feel bad for the person in my response. Does anyone have any idea of where to start?

Answer 1

Oh gee the number of people I know that do that , it's like they don't even have a point and really no answer. Then when you ask them what the answer is they say they are not repeating themselves because they probably have no idea what they just said either so they have even missed their own point. then after that sometimes they will answer and it's a whole other response then the one they gave prior and then it makes the listener twice as confused.  

Answer 2

If you aren't very self-confident, start with that.  If you're worrying so much about what the other person will think, just remember that if you say something they seem to find offensive or hurtful (which they most likely won't), you can always backtrack ("well, I shouldn't say I HATE [x], but I had a bad experience.." or something like that).  You just have to ignore your desire to overthink.  Try to just say what comes to mind (within reason of course - give it a quick screen before blurting that you hate your coworker's shirt or something).  Just make a conscious effort not to beat that bush!  Good luck.