Scared about having baby?

Question

So my husbands military and we will be moving to Hawaii when i'm 29 weeks pregnant. I'm scared to death about the whole thing because all our family is in Texas and it will just be us. My moms going to come down the 20th of January but I am due the 7th... We decided it would be better for her to come later in case the baby's late and she does not miss the baby. She can't be in the hospital room anyway because they only let one person in with me and that will be my husband. I'm just freaking out bc when I take that baby home I know nothing about baby's, wont know many people and i'm afraid i'll accidental hurt the baby or something. There just so tiny... and what if the baby comes early?? I'm just so stressed over the whole thing...

Answer 1

This is my first also, you know before I  got pregnant I didn't know a single thing about babies, and the idea terrifies me too.  

I would talk to your mom about maybe buying an Open Ticket, they are a little more expensive, but she can use it any time, not just on this day at this time. Also if you labor like most women with their first, you'll be in the first stage of labor (dilating outward) for at least 20 - 10 hours.  So if you are coming early and you recognize the signs, you can call her and she can hop on a plane right then.  Which will ease at least one worry.  

I'm sure that everyone is going to give you different advice and methods and care tips for your baby, in the end though, just do what you feel is right.  That's the very best you can do.

For some unsolicited advice from a total stranger, here are a few things that I have learned:

As soon as you can after your baby is born, put some oil on your baby's bottom.  During the first few weeks of life their poo is very much like tar, dark and sticky, so oil thir bottom up or bring a chizel with you to get it off their bottom.  (Also if you are using cloth diapers don't use them for those first two weeks, use disposables, trust me.)

Don't be overly compled to change your baby RIGHT after they dirty their diaper, otherwise you'll end up wasting a lot of diapers.  I have the five minute rule, after they soil thir diaper, give them 5 more minutes in it, to make sure they are done.

Sleep when the baby sleeps.

A fever is a baby's first defence against infections, colds and lots of other stuff, so if your baby has a fever, and they don't seem uncomfortable (as long as it's below 103 degrees and hasn't gone on for more than 12 hours) let the fever ride out, it's burning off whatever is attacking them.  

Try not to be so scared, realize that women have been having and raising babies for thousands of years, and now we have more help and resources available to us than ever before.

And more than anything, Trust in yourself.  You're Mom.  And despite being so worried you will know your baby better than you can imagine, and definatly better than anyone else.  So do what feels right.

Congratulations on your pregnancy, and good luck!

Answer 2

Don't stress I did the same thing, except we are stationed in my hometown,BUT we had No help what so ever after my son came home from the hospital,I don't have much family to begin with and they really aren't much of a help anyway.It will all come naturally to you,Are you or do you plan to go to birthing/parenting classes at your hospital?? I did with my first and they helped me alot.I would look into it:)Good luck you'll do fine.

Answer 3

First of all...relax!!!! I know it's easier said than done, but not everyone knows what to do w/ babies. I babysat for years and was clueless when I had my 1st!!! Get the book "What to Expect When You're Expecting." It should have tips in there on how to deal w/ certain baby things. Take advantage of the nursing staff in the hospital! Ask them as many questions as you can! They can teach you how to nurse (should you choose to do so), they can show you how to burp the baby and tell you how often it should be done and they can even show you how to bathe him/her. They are there to help and they'll be more than happy to offer advice! Your mom is only a phone call away should you need additional help after going home. She can give you mental/emotional support and talk you thru various tasks. It'll be fine! Just have fun w/ it. The 1st month is always the hardest. The only thing you really have to worry about in the 1st year is learning when to give certain foods, but that's something your pediatrician can help you w/.

Answer 4

It will all come to you. You could never love anything as much as you will love that baby! That will be the best way to make sure it has everything it needs. Every baby is different so even if you know everything there is to know you will be stumped sometimes. YahooAnswers will always be here to and we are always ready to help! Try to relax, it's going to be a lot of change, but take time for yourself. Find a great a little salon and get your pedicures! You'll be a great mom!  

Answer 5

Try and find a place to take some parenting classes if you are that concerned. Things are going to be fine, though. Babies are not as fragile as you might think. Read some books and learn as much as you can before you have the baby. Find a pediatrician when you get to Hawaii and interview them and tell them your concerns and ask them questions. And there's always the telephone to call your mom if you need to, not to mention the internet. You will be fine, just relax and learn as much as you can before your little bundle of joy comes! Good luck and congratulations!!

Answer 6

First off, just the fact that you are worried shows you are concerned and caring.  You WILL BE OKAY!  In the beginning, the baby just needs sleep, diaper changes and food. Do what it takes to become comfortable.  I suggest attending things like La Leche League to make mommy friends, ask questions and to be around babies to become more comfortable.  Also, watch TV.  I loved birth stories, the midwives show, bringing home baby etc.  Also, sign up for baby care classes at the hospital.  If you use common sense, it is hard to hurt the baby.  

Answer 7

Just relax and stop stressing so much, You and your baby will be fine, try asking people with a little bit more knowledge on the subjects you want to know or try reading some parent books.....

Answer 8

first off. RELAX, mother instincts do kick in. and the hospital will make sure you know everything you need to before you leave. And CALLING the doctors office just to be sure is better than leaving it and it becoming worse.

second, go to a hospital in your area (or ask you OB) and ask if you can get some tips on handling newborns, etc.

third, go to lamaze and prebaby classes. they help ease your mind. (i personally didnt go when I was pregnant because I went with my sisters when they were pregnant, and yes i was coach for one of them).

fourth, when you get to hawaii find a doctor you know will be delivering and a pediatrician who will be able to answer your questions in a way you can understand.

fifth, come on to Yahoo and ask us for help. or email me directly. relax about it all. the more you stress the worse it could be for you and your baby.

good luck!!!!!

Answer 9

ok... first off...breathe, lol...

dont get stressed, cuz the baby can feel it.

when it happens,it happens, yes there is nothing you can do to control it, but you can ensure that things go safely and smoothly.

when the baby comes, your instincts will kick in. there are some things you will want to learn - like changing diapers and bathing and feeding, but all of these things are stuff that the nurses at the hospital can help you learn. believe me, they wont let you go home without learning the necessities.when you get home, you will feel overwhelmed, but this is normal. you are getting used to a new little person, and they are getting used to a whole new world.

just calm down, and let things happen. everything will fall into place.

if you need to talk, feel free to email me.

good luck

Answer 10

I don't know anything about babies either, just what I have learned since being pregnant...ask your mother to change her flight date....

My sister and sister in law both have four children each, so If I have any questions I can ask them, plus my mom is going to take a week off of work and come over everyday and help me.  

Answer 11

You'll be fine, I had my 1st at 19 and my husband was 29. We brought her home and put her in her crib and looked at each other and siad "what now"?

It comes naturally, you will be fine.