Schedule wedding date around guests?

Question

I'm getting married next june, and my fiance and i could only rent out the location we wanted on a sunday instead of a saturday. the problem we have now is my sister complaining about her not being able to come to the wedding (she lives in VA and I am in MD) because it's on a sunday and she won't have time to get back home before her kids need to go to school. anyway, she was going to be my maid of honor and her kids were going to be in the wedding as well. my question is, do you think i should change my wedding date and look for a different place, or just keep what i have and find a new wedding party?

Answer 1

I think you should stand firm on your plans and say to your sister "Sorry sis, but Sunday is the only day I can rent out location.  I'd love to have you as my maid of honour but I can understand your worries and if you cannot make it.  I just wish there was something I could do."  Then let her know gently that if she can't make it, could she please let you know.

Answer 2

keep it the kids could miss one day if need be

Answer 3

Hi.  This is something you will need to work out with your sister.  Personally, I don't see the big deal of letting your children miss one day of school for their aunt's wedding.  Seems like your sister is trying to spoil things for you.  IF you had your wedding on a Saturday, wouldn't she have to take the kids out of school on Friday in order to be there for the rehearsal?  So....what's the big deal if you have the rehearsal on Saturday, wedding on Sunday, and she takes the kids out of school on Monday to travel back home.  As I see it, she would need to take the kids out of school one day anyway.

Answer 4

Which do you want more, your sister and her family to attend or your first choice location?  That will tell you.

Answer 5

If that is the place you want, then keep it!! Its your SPECIAL day! Your sister should work with your schedule a little.  She could let the kids miss one day of school, it isn't going to hurt anything.  If she doesn't want to work with you....then change your wedding party, its her loss not yours. Good Luck! I hope you can work it out!

Answer 6

it's your wedding your guest should either agree to work around it or not come at all. wouldn't you take a day off school and work for your sister wedding?

Answer 7

How important is it to you to have your sister at the wedding?

The wedding is YOUR day. If you want your sister there, you'll have to work around her schedule. If you don't, schedule it when you want it.

On the other hand, your sister should recognize it's YOUR day and should try a little harder to work with you.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Your sister should know that your wedding is very important day in your life. You shouldnt have to rescedulal unless this isnt realy the place you want. Who cares if your sisters kids miss a couple days of school, she should come anyways.  

Answer 9

keep your wedding the same its YOUR special day not your sisters so what if the kids miss a day of school its not gonna hurt anyone!

good luck and congratulations !

Answer 10

Remember, it is your wedding and not your sister's wedding. Many people make special allowances for traveling to this type of special ooccasion Your sister could have the children miss a day or even a half of day of school for this. I am sure the school district will understand. If it is in June of 2009, most school's are finished with their instruction by that time so, the children really won't miss anything. To better prepare your sister's children's school, you r sister can go to the school prior to the date and inform the teacher(s) of the event and the teachers can assign any work due that day. Monday is usually an instruction day and generally the children can make up what is introduced on Monday on Tuesday.

If you and your fiance have your heart set on one location and that is the only time to get it, I say do it and your sister will be there because this is important to her and you. Have your sister check the school calender for next year and see how close the wedding date is to the end of school to reassure herself that is it would be okay for the children tto miss a day of school next June. Good Luck and  happy wedding planning!

Answer 11

Why can't her kids miss ONE day of school?

Answer 12

Keep what you have ! and why can't they miss a day or two of school? And you did say June, unless they are in high school and they have to take finals, I don't see what the problem would be. They will be out of school soon wouldn't  they?

Answer 13

Hmmm. She is your sister and let her take the kids out one day.  If that isthe place you want then book it  

Answer 14

You know what if she's your sister and she loves you she'll understand and make other arrangements. How do her kids need to go to school in June? It's almost the end of the school year by then--they won't miss much. Seriously! go with the date you planned. I had mine on a Sunday b/c the venue we wanted was affordable on a Sunday. It just happened to be mothers day. My husbands sister complained and I said ya know what your daugther is 13 you've celebrated 13 mother's days before and how many will you celebrate after this? It's one day out of the year and maybe your life where it gets to be all about you so I say do what you want.

Answer 15

You have your wedding when you want to.  Your sister should make an exception for her children, and be sure and be there for you.  This is the most important day in your life, and it is only one day out of their lives.

Your sister needs to be more considerate of your special day.

Answer 16

I do not think you should reschedule your date- she's your sister, and they are your nieces and nephews, they can miss a day of school (besides its June the year is almost over!) (and this is coming from a teacher!) IT'S ONE DAY!  You need to approach your sister and tell her its very important that she figure out how to be in your wedding with her kids.  You need to tell her that this is the day and place you want it and you are going to be hurt and disappointed if she can't come- i would be livid if my sister gave me some BS excuse like that because she couldn't come to my wedding!  And i live in a different country than my sister!  So... Good Luck!

Answer 17

If it's your maid of honor, I'd change plans.