School anxieties-worried about the new year?

Question

Ok, while there are masses of people who have bigger problems than me at school (bullying etc), I'm still really scared about going back. I'm terrified for several reasons:

I'm in a new class with lots of people I really don't know/like and I only have one person there who I'm kind of friendly with there.

I'm really weird looking-I'm 5ft 11, 168 lbs (I know it's really heavy) with a pudgy hourglass frame that looks abominable in school uniform. I also look like a quarter back in school uniform. Other than that I have a really big nose. And big b***s that make me look like I've got a shelf under my jumper. And Uk size 8.5 feet-thats a US size 10.5. My proportions are 40, 32, 41 so I'm pretty huge-but very tall.

I used to be an A student but now I get too easily distracted-I was in the top maths set but now I've dropped each year so I'm in the 3rd (out of 5 but 5 is for people with learning difficulties) set and I find it difficult.

i'm fully hetero sexual but boys say I'm fat, ugly and hideous. They call me names like 'munter', 'l***o' and 'fat nose' and make really degrading and hurtful comments about my nose-'fat nose' 'look like a frog' etc. I still fancy boys though, but it's hurtful that none find me attractive.

I'm also going to be studying for my GSCE's and I'm really scared because I want to go to a top university.

Please help me-my parents have tried their best but I still am unpopular, chubby and sad. This isn't some lousy moan that I want sympathy for. I know other people have more problems than me.

This probably is pathetic and I know I'm not pretty or anything but I really want some good comebacks and more confidence to be myself. I also want to make more friends.

Answer 1

Aw! Girl, you need confidence! First of all, you sound beautiful. I'm sure so many girls wish they had some of your features! You have an hourglass frame (So what if you're a bit heavy! That didn't stop Queen Latifah from becoming one of the most popular and well loved models!) A large chest, big nose (which brings attention to your face, big noses are beautiful!).

You have to remember that it's your flaws that make you who you are, and they make you beautiful.

You need to walk into school on that first day and feel like you are queen of the world. Get confidence. Who cares about those losers? Boys are immature, and some times, it may seem like having a boyfriend is fun and easy... trust me, it can be very uncomfortable, some of them, are like, 5 year olds, but obsessed with s*x. And you don't know that there aren't any boys who don't find you attractive, they are probably worried about you, so they don't want to say anything, because they don't want to hurt you. Anyone can get a guy, but confidence is key.

You said you used to be an A student. Well, spend the year focusing on your studies. It will get your mind off of the bullies. They aren't worth your time. This seems like its a big year for you, are you a senior? And anyway, those Top Universities are going to be looking at your grades, so make them proud! Who cares what people think of you know? You can know that you are going to have a good base for the rest of your life, and you can start now.

And, don't worry, you aren't pathetic. This is a legitimate question and you just need help. Nothing to be ashamed of. You want to start making more friends, start now. Hi, my name is Erica! Email me some time, you sound like a sweet girl.

And trust me, get yourself out there, think of yourself as the Queen Latifah at your school, and make her proud. You're a great kid, and you need to make sure you get what you deserve. Good luck, and stay beautiful!

Answer 2

omg i have exactly the same poblem

Answer 3

switch schools.

peace.love.happiness.

Answer 4

Sweetie, I know you care what people think. But you shouldn't, you really will make friends. You've probably gotten this speech from your parents, but it's true. If you just be yourself, people are going to like you for who you are, not what you look like.