School bullies?

Question

My daughter is being picked on at school because of her style, she is into emo music always wears the correct school uniform but has dyed black hair and wears black eye make-up, even without the makeup they still pick on her and her mates.

I have spoken to the school but uness they witness anything they are not prepared to act.

What do I do next?

Answer 1

Does your daughter have any emo friends she can hang around with?

I'm a bit past my school days (I'm 33), but I remember being an indie kid back in the day (s'pose that was the equivalent of emo back then) and I guess it's a bit par for the course if you're into a subculture to get hassled for it sometimes.

One thing I would say is tell your daughter she should be proud of having superior tastes and being an individual  and not being a sheep-like conformist like all the adidas-wearers.

Good luck

Answer 2

hi join my club....i went to the board of school govenors but tey were of no use so i took my 4 children out of the school and eventually changed their school as all that the school that they were bullied at were conserned about was sweeping the problem under the carpet and keeping the bullies at the schhol....i have known people to take their local paper into schools about bullying if you dont fancy that go to the education welfare and kick h**l as they say and this works for a while but i found that this was only a short term measure....good luck as i know the upset that this causes....

Answer 3

I find it strange how in society we are supposed to tolerate people who are different, at least that is what we are being told.

But yet children who know very little, lash out at anything different to them, they are for lack of a better words prejudice bigots.

To me, this is natural, nature at its most raw.

Maybe it's not in our nature to accept everyone.

Your daughter will have to find her place, if she is not willing to assimilate with her peers.

Answer 4

Easy....go above the Principal's head--->the SUPERINTENDENT.  Go to the district office in charge of the school.  They will call the Principal to fix the problem.

This will work!  I used to sub in the schools.

Answer 5

the school isn't in Portishead by any chance is it! if it is they won't do anything just keep at them  or better get the parents numbers and have a chat with them!

Answer 6

Maybe you should have a word with the kids parents.

Answer 7

I am sorry your daughter is bullied at school i had the same problem with my daughter unfortunately bullies are the ones who stay in school and pick away at these kids until they don't go back to school ,or they turn on the bullies  i complained to my local council who had a anti bullying policy. and that shook the school up so is there one in your area ask your school and education authority

Answer 8

Tell you daughter to carry her mobile where ever she goes. If she sees these people outside of school then tell her to ring you.

You then tell her to secretly video the bullies if anything happens. Show it to the headteacher and if he/she is a good teacher then he/she would do something about it.

But as it seems, your daughters headteacher seems like a bit of a dipstick, so they will probably say that because it was oout of school, they can't do anything about it.

The go to the police and show it to them. They will have to listen and do something about it!

Good Luck!

Answer 9

go down there with your daughter, get her to explain it to the teacher, i was bullied through out school, my mum dragged me down the school so i could explain it the the teacher, and picked out which who had been picking on me, from that day til i turn 16 no one picked on me cos all the teacher  who have a meeting with these nasty people on a Friday with me in the same room, cos most of them was in my class so i had the teacher on my side, but i had left school early due to being picked on in my last year, i came home and told my mum i didn't wanna go back, she rung the school on the school turn around and said i needed to stand on my own 2 feet, just go down there and gice the whay for, tell them you will be taking her out if this keeps happening

Answer 10

that is very unprofessional of the school. all reports of bullying should be looked into. i would go to the upper management of the school and complain about their policy on bullying.

Answer 11

Go and kick their behinds,  no child should have to put up with that.

Answer 12

This is certainly not the right way for a school to deal with bullies.

Fair enough they have not witnessed anything, but they should still talk to the children involved!

If you have already spoken to the head teacher with no joy, then I would suggest you write a letter to the board of governers,stating how unhappy you are with the school, and demand some action!!

Also does the school have a bullying policy, I think all schools have them now, it maybe worth asking for a copy of it, it will outline what the schools stand is on bullying and what they will do about it, if they are not following this policy, you can really go to town with the school!!

It is also worth helping your daughter to think of some "come backs" when these bullies start on her, because unfortunately in this life she will come accross many nasty people out there, especially if she is deemed different because of her style and she does need to start to learn how to deal with it in her own way.

Good luck, and don't back down, to often schools try to brush these things under the carpet and hope it will go away, don't let them do this with your daughter.

Answer 13

I think that bullying in schools has certainly gotten out of hand mainly because teachers and principals are scared of the kids themselves.  But, I have to ask here... you've got this in the "grade-schooler" section, so how old is your daughter?  You are letting her dye her hair black and wear black eye make-up??  Sorry, but that is pretty extreme for a grade-schooler.  You're letting her set herself up for teasing.  I'm sure a lot won't agree with me, but a lot of this is your fault for letting her go to school looking this way.

Answer 14

you need to help your daughter with some good come backs for when these bullies start on her and her friends or help her to have the confidence to ignore them, she is better than them and  she shouldn't let them affect her school work. Keep on at the school and if they threaten violence the school will have to act. Good luck.

Answer 15

thats a terrible school then. trust me i went to that was sooooooooo anti bullying slightest sniff of bullying they were on it. i would press it further with the school.