School doesn't allow boys and girls to play together at recess

Question

Well I enrolled my 7 year old in private school this year and school started on the 3rd (what kind of bull sh*T is that my school never started till after labor day but this kids get out May 1-2 so they get a long enough break) Back to my question. My daughter came home very distraught yesterday saying she wasn't allowed to play with the boys during recess. She wanted to play house and he wanted to play but the teachers told them no way. I guess at this age I can see some problems with inappropriate "mommy daddy relationships if unsupervised" But shouldn't they be encouraging kids to step outside the little cliches I talked to the teacher and they say they are planning to create seperate recesses one for boys and one for girls. Does anyone have a problem w/ this besides me?

Answer 1

That is ridiculous!

I went to super strict Catholic school, even we weren't seperated by gender until like age 11-12. Most single s*x environments in schools don't start that early. Honestly, there isn't really any reason for it at that age though as long as the kids are supervised. They need to be supervised no matter what so it shouldn't be an issue.

The boys and girls need to learn to play together- kids really do play differently and if you don't make the boys 'play nice' and the girls learn to be a little 'tougher' I think you're doing them a disservice. At this age they're learning necessary social skills, not generally doing stuff like flirting, looking for boyfriends like with 7th graders.

Personally I'd take my kid out of the school. You probably still have time to enroll her in another one.

Answer 2

in public school that would never be legal and yea i'd have a problem with it

Answer 3

I get your point and completely agree!!  Contact other parents and see if you can change it; schools generally give what parents say a high priority. Unless its like a catholic school, they generally seem to be pretty uptight.  

Answer 4

I think that's totally ridiculous. Children are going to have to deal with the opposite gender their entire lives, so why not start learning how to deal at an early age? Let's face it, there are differences between the sexes that go beyond organs and kids need to learn early how to deal with it. Sure, they interact in class, but there are certain "politics" of the playground that children learn to work out on their own and it's important, I think, for both genders to be involved. I would ask an administrator what the reasoning is for this. It sounds like this school might be a little kooky, at least for me. Pay close attention to what else goes on there and why.

Answer 5

No problem and here is why.

Most boys under the age of puberty do not care for playing with girls anyway and vice versa.

Next when they hit puberty their hormones are driving them so crazy all they want is a b/f g/f relatioonship and s*x.The girls start dressing in a way they can appeal to the boys lust and vice versa in order to feel "wanted".

It has been proven time and time again that boys and girls who are separated in school do much better,than those who are mixed in together.

Now after seeing girls at the age of 8 yrs old and up wanting to know how to get a boy to "notice them" it is time for parents to be alarmed.

Answer 6

don't know about the United States but in most British schools until around the 1950s or 60s boys and girls were not allowed to mix, in lessons in lessons or elsewhere, you can still see on old schools the different entrances, usually at either side of the school with 'Boys' and 'Girls' written into the stone.

Answer 7

Good god, that's ridiculous! Surely seperating boys and girls just asks for more trouble-won't it make them more interested in why they are being seperated? A bit like if you stop a child doing something, they want to do it more. Have you thought of putting your child in a regular school or is that not an option where you are (I know some public schools can be terrible).

I have great memories of playing with the boys (that could have come out better...lol) when I was younger-I was a real tomboy and found a lot of the other girls just wanted to play with dolls, etc.  

Answer 8

That's crazy! I have never heard of a school doing that before.....I would have a problem with it!

Answer 9

Sure do, but at public school they don't care.

Answer 10

No wonder we have so many kids turning g*y today. Some rule are so very overblown nowadays

Answer 11

its a private school they can do wat they want...

Answer 12

Its not normal! they shoudl let kids be kids! Yes they will make mistakes (like everyonei n the world has!) but thats y theres teachers around and parents! stupid school........

Answer 13

I know I would, but at they way teens are right now (pregnant, drugs, etc.) I guess they just want them to be safe. I kind agree with you and them.

Answer 14

Keeping the boys separated from the girls during recess sounds downight silly to me.

Answer 15

private schools often opt for that type of gender segregation...  personally, I think it affects the socialization of children, and it seems a bit old fashioned...

if you're not comfortable with it (and that's totally fine if you're not) then move her to a different school....

Answer 16

It's pretty ridiculous.

Separating boys and girls at recess only creates unhealthy attitudes towards each other.  Kids should be encouraged to embrace everyone, not just other girls or boys.  It's stupid and I would seriously consider either going to the principal and other parents with this or, if that doesn't work, switching your kid's school.

Answer 17

That is segregation and unconstitutional.  I would report this and pull my child out of school. It's very very sad and wrong to teach children that something is wrong with the opposite s*x and they are doing just that by  separating them.  In the real world, men and women deal with each other side by side.  Children need to be taught about healthy relationships and how to deal with the opposite gender.