School gives me the worst anxiety, please help.?

Question

I'm afraid to wake-up every morning. I get all nervous around people. And just the thought of having projects and schoolwork makes me anxious/nervous. I get stressed really easily, what should I do?

Answer 1

i dont know how to help you because i go through the same thing. ever since i started school i have gotten b*tchier everyday i think about things i shouldnt think about, good luck, i feel your pain.

Answer 2

Babe,Does this happen during the beginning of the year?  What you need to do is to calm down and relax,For one.  What makes you nervous around people?  Are you afraid of what people will think of you?  If that's the case,Let's put an end to that.  You are a wonderful young woman.  I don't really know what you look like,But I'd bet my stars that you are very very attractive.  And to heck what other people might say or think about you.  It is mostly about how you feel about yourself that is more important.  As long as you believe in yourself,You can accomplish anything.  As for the schoolwork and projects,Let's just take these one day at a time now.  Or if not,You are just going to be a frazzled mess all school year.  And Hon,You do not want to be that way.  Take each day,One day at a time.  Assignments come up,Mark them down somewhere so you won't forget them.  Projects come up,Mark down the deadline for them and just take your time with them.  If you have any problems,I am sure you can always go to your teachers for help.  That's what they get paid for.  After school,Be sure to eat healthy and get plenty of rest.  Sometimes a nice steamy hot bath followed by a head massage helps relieve my stress.  If you need someone to turn to,I'd be so honored if you'd count on me.  My name is David and it's a pleasure writing to you.  I've gotta split for now.  Have a goodnight and God bless.  Bye for now.

Answer 3

View the information and weblinks for social anxiety/shyness, and self confidence, in sections 9, and 38, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris  Here is an exercise that can help you. It is called "Act as If." When you are in a social situation, act as if you are outgoing. Talk more, smile at everyone, ask questions, speak in a normal or excited tone, not a meek tone. Watch some of your outgoing peers, and imitate the style of their social behavior.

Research shows that when you "act as if" continually, your image of yourself begins to conform to your new behavior. In this case, you will gain self-esteem and self-confidence, and begin to see yourself as socially normal, not shy. You will become more socially successful, and this will motivate you to continue your new social behavior until it becomes a habit.

Try this for a month, in every situation you can. I am confident that you will become much more comfortable and outgoing. One form of therapy is to go somewhere that nobody knows you, and deliberately make an utter fool of yourself: put on a paper hat, and scream out: "I'm queen/king of America!", or something else ridiculous, then get back in the taxi, (warn the driver of your intentions, first) or car, and leave.      

      People will point, and say: "Look at that idiot". But, you're probably not up to the stage where you can do that, yet (I can, and I used to be shy). It will teach you that, although it isn't actually pleasant, you will survive; be stronger for the experience, and the next time (should you need to repeat this type of therapy) will be considerably easier. Remember: "A fear avoided is a fear strengthened; a fear faced is a fear reduced." Regard it as your final test: once you have accomplished it, the barrier will be broken; just don't go too far, the other way! Learn to laugh at yourself, and give a big, cheesy grin when others see you do something foolish, as we all do, occasionally. It is endearing, if you don't do it too often. Use positive affirmations: for example: "I am very likable and other people feel comfortable around me".      

      Write down all of your self limiting beliefs; then write down the positive counter of them, (exact opposite) and repeat them and imprint them into your mind.

Most importantly: Force yourself to approach somebody and initiate some sort of communication. Start out small by asking the time and directions and gradually go bigger.

Although there are anti-anxiety medications (anxiolytics) available, these come with risks, and the possibility of side effects, habituation, even addiction, and withdrawal problems, and are unsuitable for young people.

Try having a cup of "Tension Tamer", herbal tea, by Celestial Seasonings, (from supermarket tea, or health food aisles) or make some at home, and cool, then bottle, and drink as needed (I find it so strong tasting, that I need to drink it quickly, followed by something like fruit juice, to take away the taste, but others may find it more tolerable). C(h)amomile tea is a more palatable option. As with all herbal/green teas, use lemon/lime, and/or a little sweetener (NOT ARTIFICIAL!!!) but no cream, or milk.  

Anxiety is addressed in section 6: see page N first. Stress: section 42: view page i first. Check out the GETTING ORGANISED websites, in section 26, and study tips, in section 13: teen resources: page K - surviving middle/high school: section 9, from memory. Visit your school counselor.

Answer 4

It's ok to be anxious, if it does get worse, see a doctor.

Here is a website that doesn't sell anything and has survey type questions on the google ads;

www.depressionandanxietypain.com

Good luck,

Sl