School help ASAP?

Question

Okay, I'm 16 and i'll be turning 17 in March...

So I'm a junior-ish, I'm doing a little bit of 11th grade and a little bit of 10th grade.... I used to have dyslexia bad so i took a year off school in one ofmy lower grades to learn to read and write better.

Now I feel like my learning has just stoped...

I've been homeschooled all my life and now my mom has picked up drinking after my my parents split up.

She has been 'teaching' me less and less everyday.

I'm thinking about moving to my dads house, but that means i'd have to go to a school.

I think it would be hard to jump into a public school half way through my junior year since I don't know anyone and all.

Just tell me what you think,

Answer 1

you'll have problems with dyslexia too

Answer 2

go to a boarding school.

my brother has dyslexia and public schools dont give enough one-on-one attention to dyslexics. theres too many kids.

go to a small school or a boarding school, if possible.

they can focus on YOU more than just SCHOOL.

its great to meet new people. although it will be hard. :(

im sorryy

im really sorry about the divorce and your mom. that must be really hard to live with. good luck.

Answer 3

If I am reading your question correctly, you feel that if your mom were teaching you daily all would be fine as far as homeschooling goes.

That being said, all you really need is some temporary assistance to replace the teaching your mom used to provide until she is back up on her feet. What are the subjects/curriculum that you are working on now? How do you learn best - hearing a lecture, reading a text, working with concepts, etc? If you post this information, there may be someone who will offer assistance or will have a teaching aid that can fill the gap. If you have something that comes close to one of the classes I teach online, you can jump in with us or you can drop in to the online classroom in the evenings when I have open office hours and ask for help on parts that stump you even if it isn't a curriculum we are doing.

About your mom:

Divorce is a very stressful event for all members of a family. The loss of a marriage often triggers depression. In modern society people oftem look down on the one who is depressed as being somehow ill or abnormal. In my opinion, deep sadness over a traumatic loss should be seen as a normal period to pass through - grieving. The key is the part about 'pass through'. If you can stick it out a bit, your mom will likely be able to recover her balance with a bit of time; though the drinking does throw in a complication because it can be addictive and can add a layer of behavior change on top of the depression itself. My guess is she is using it as a bit of 'anethesia' for the pain. If she has't been drinking for a long time, she may be more likely to be responsive to quiting if you ask her to stop.

Hang in there. Your mom will more than likely pull out of it enough to find the energy to help again. If she has homeschooled you all these years, it sounds like it is a commitment near and dear to her heart. She will pick it up again pretty early in her recovery. Loving her and looking to help her will do a world of good for her right now. If you can positively influence her to stop drinking and find a safer, less addictive form of coping, that would be a good idea. Chocolate has long been found to help with depression. It has gentle stimulants and mood lifters that do not alter behavior negatively and are not addictive (well, not much more than sugar anyway). Excercise, oddly enough, is helpful. If eating chocolate, excercise may be needed to keep off the pounds too. Someone who is depressed feels low in energy, but if they can get themsleves out and move around actively it chemically lifts the spirits and can counter some of the negative physical impacts of depression. Find ways to help her smile. I like what was suggested by a reserach study in the 80s. They found that if you make yourself smile, it actually produces certain chemicals that lift the spirit. Not a huge boost, but every little bit helps.