School starts in 2 days I need help fast!!!!?

Question

Ok so Im going into high school but I just moved so its not the high school my friends are going to (or i should say my friend scince i only have one). Im not going to know anyone or have any friends when I start.

Im kind of brutal to people that dont meet my "stardards".

I know that sounds harshh but I even have high standards for myself.

So I need help on how to be nice to people that I wouldnt normally be nice to.

Pretty much thats anyone that if it was me and I had to look at that everyday in the mirrior I would think I was ugly or fat.

Can you guys give me some tips on how I can stop myself

from being mean and instantly looking at someone and based on their appearance

deciding weather I want to be their friend or not.

Thanks soo much.

Answer 1

Wow no wonder you only had one friend! But congrats on deciding to change all the same. Remember that you are a new girl, and that anyone who is nice to you is doing you a good turn. Whenever you have a tendancy to judge someone, remember you are not perfect either. And also remember that people can lose fat and get beautiful, but it is harder to find a good heart.  

Answer 2

First of all. You'll need to stop judging everybody by their apperances. What if you looked like that? How would you feel?

I think you should drop your standards and be nice to everybody. People like being treated nicely. Attitude wont get you very far.

Now im not telling you to change completely because beleive me i know. Old habbits die hard. Just be nice, and once you start talking to everbody and making a few friends, you could (if you still wanted too) start back up with a few standards (but try not to be bitchy).

Maybe start with the boy standards, but start at a comfortable bar. :)

Goodluck!

Answer 3

Well i was the same

i joined a sport and after about a week everyone was friends with everyone. So join a sport its the easiest way. And another thing when someone ask you a question and greet you dont just answer them back with a one word answer. And be sure to kept the conversation going. For example if they ask are u new ?dont just say yea then keep quiet i suggest something like yea i used to go to such and such when i live such and such? then ask them what about you how long have you came here and so on. belive me the conversation will jst start rolling from thier and you will have ur first friend.

Answer 4

It's good that you don't want to be mean and so on to people, and that you don't want to judge them based on their appearance.

For a first step in actually practically doing that, you could try, as soon as you realize that you are judging someone on their appearance, looking for something good about them - for example they might have really nice hair, or great shoes, or a great smile, or be really friendly - and then focus on that.

Maybe you could even compliment them on it, to really cement it in your head that that is what you are looking for, not the bad. After a while you will get into the habit of looking for the good in people rather than judging them.

And also, sometimes the good thing you are looking for isn't on the surface, so you'll have to talk to people before you judge them.

Good luck!

Answer 5

What a coincidence

same here...

unlike you me and my sister are stalling it off...

that way when we start school people will have already settled..

easier to make friends...

don't be shy  ...

some one will have the same personality as you.

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