I love my mother, she is driving me and my other siblings crazy. I don't think it's a recent thing, but only that recently it's bothered me because they are noticing the problem and also because I'm healthy enough now.
When I talk to my mother on the phone I want to be able to have a normal conversation with her. I'm 32, she is 69. When she asks how my day was, I want to be able to tell her instead of her listening to the first part of my sentence and then interrupting with how her day was and the day before she did this, that, etc. until she drones on and I want to be off the phone. I want to be close to her, and in some ways I am.
I want better than this. She has no health concerns that could cause this, she's not 'lonely' or alone even though retired her and my father are active and busy. She just seems to love to talk about herself, and if I listen until she runs down (11 minutes if I talk to her every day and 30 to 40 if I limit the calls to twice a week) then she suddenly has to go!! So please, don't tell me just let her run down - she can phone 5 or 6 people in a night and have the same conversation (from her end) with all of them.
Any ideas to derail her and have a conversation rather than a monologue? Or should I just do with my siblings do and avoid her as much as possible?
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