Second break up, does he want me back?

Question

i just broke up with my boyfriend of four years. we lived together for four years yet broke up the first 6 months and got back together after the summer. now that i think about it, we really couldnt start over since we were living together from the jump. after college i had move back home out of state. we called each other and text messaged frequently.

out of nowhere the communication died down slowly. he says it is because i talk negative when on the phone. he previously said that his iphone was updated to new software and it was acting up and he didn't get text messages like normal. i thought that was a lie and he just made up an excuse to not talk to me as much. to make a long tory short, he said it was becoming less of a want to talk to me to more of a task. also, that we were moving in two different directions. i agreed t a certain degree and that was it. i sent a letter of apology so forth but did not just take the blame for the break up. he text me that he read my messages i emailed to him and that was it since then. what do i do?

is he wanting space or waiting for me to move back to his state (im moving back for a job i got and he knows) and communicate? he did say we should just be friends. i tried to make a long story short. what do you guys think? i want him back and i have been thnking about it since. i sent the letter and feel i should not do anymore after that and live my life until he responds back.

now that we have separate places now, i feel that we could really start over correctly and go slow. i wonder if he is thinking the same but is just not telling me, he has been known to want to say something to me regarding anything about our relationship but sometimes does not want to be vulnerable in case i feel differently. if i didn't explain enough, or it makes no since just ask nicely for me to re-explain.

Answer 1

You should move on hez not good enough for you you seem like really nice and really smart person (considering all that you wrote) xD Well anywayz you should try to take it slow and let go of him and if being friendz doesnt help you shouldnt be friendz...Hopefuly i helped in a way xD Lolx xP Well anywayz I wish you the  best of LUCK!!! xD

Answer 2

Why don't you just talk to him about this?  

Answer 3

do you know if he got your email? you guys should defintly keep the comminucation up and everything will turn out okay.

Answer 4

No reply is a reply. Men would rather give up their left arm than deal with you after he tells you he's not interested in this relationship anymore. They don't like drama or confrontation or emotional females. A man is never too busy to go after what he wants. Think back to your early relationship and the attention you received from him.  Initially you were in contact all the time. Why? Because he was into you and you were the highlight of his day. Men are the epitome of excuses when they don't want to talk to a girl - I missed the call, I had no service, I'm so busy, etc. It's a load of c**p. And sadly you know it, but you're making excuses for him because you so badly want to believe its not true. You two are in a long distance relationship that just doesn't seem to be what he wants. Men are very clear in their actions and often in their words. He has flat out said "we should just be friends". He said, "it is a chore to talk to you...he is not doing it because he has a desire to do it." As hard as it is, this man has moved on. He is not into you like he was and you need to accept it and move on too. I'm sorry that is easier said than done, but if you continue to pursue this you will force him to reject you in a much harsher way. Do you really want that?

Answer 5

Move on.

Answer 6

You deserve to be with someone who WANTS to talk to you.  But if you still feel that you want him back give him some time and space and become a happy positive person.  Men love a happy woman and once you become fulfilled with yourself, you'll attract the same from someone else.  

Answer 7

i think he is making excuses, finding fault with u,because he has someone else, believe him when he says he only wants a friendship from u, and don't keep contacting him, it makes u look desperate, keep your dignity and if he wants u he will be the one to contact u.