Seeing each other before the ceremony?

Question

I am not superstitious, I dont care if it is "bad luck" to see each other before the wedding.

I am just torn because I want that moment he first sees me walking down the isle to be really special and I am afraid that if we see each other before the ceremony it wont be as much.

On the other hand, I think it is kind of sweet to have a private moment before hand, since after it gets kind of hectic afterward. I heard the idea somewhere of having breakfast together that morning... thats kind of nice

anyway, who did and didnt do it? What did you think?

Answer 1

We're having breakfast together the morning of. Our ceremony is at 3pm and we and our entire bridal party are staying in a hotel the night before (he and I in different rooms since he's going out with his friends and I'm going with mine it's easier this way so we don't wake each other up.)

The morning of we are getting together with our bridal party for breakfast then he's going to do his thing and I'm going to do mine thing...He hasn't seen my dress, he doesn't know how I'm doing my hair. So basically the last time he's going to see me is in my lounge clothes then again all dressed up on my gown.

EDIT I came back to read through some of the answers and I just don't get them. If you guys get together for breakfast before you start getting ready and then don't see each other until the ceremony, why does that take away from the "surprise"? It isn't like you are in your full gown and him his tux when you have breakfast so I don't get it. He's still going to think you are gorgeous and it isn't going to take away from it.

Someone mentioned that you should be having breakfast together the rest of your lives...that's not quite true...I'm looking forward to the breakfast because with our work schedules we only get to have breakfast together once in awhile.

I just think you should do whatever you choose but don't let people sway you away by saying if you get together for breakfast than it's going to ruin it. Or if you have a special moment before the ceremony that it's going to ruin it. You are still his beautiful bride , you will still get to see his first expression no matter where you are and at the end of the day you will be married.

Answer 2

I didn't see my husband prior to the ceremony (or that whole morning really!) and the moment that I saw him as I came up the aisle with my dad was amazing.  It was like opening a gift on Christmas morning!  I was glad we stuck to the tradition because it made it all the more special.

Answer 3

Dont let him see you! i hate when brides do that! You are suppose to walk down the aisle and he is suppose to be blown away and when i go to a wedding thats what i always look for watching the grooms expression, and i dont know it just looks kind of untasteful if he sees you before like you guys couldnt wait two seconds, but hey this is just me.

Answer 4

I plan on seeing my fiance before walking down the isle. One reason is so we can get pictures finished before the ceremony. I just went to marry him and go right into celebrating. It may be silly but that sounds great. We are going to set up a private meeting beforehand and then we'll take our pictures. I think breakfast sounds like a great idea though! I'll have to think about how we can set that up too :)

Answer 5

Oh no, don't see each other before the ceremony because then when you walk down the aisle later in the day it won't be special.  I actually didn't see my husband for the whole week.  We were together the week before at our rehearsal dinner and then we didn't see each other for the whole week.  You can talk on the phone or have someone give him a message from you but if you want it to be really special I wouldn't see him on the wedding day until you are walking down the aisle.  Kelly, you can do what you want because it is your wedding but I would not want my husband to see me in my wedding gown until the ceremony.  It is traditional to take the photos of the two of you together after the ceremony and before the reception.  Also, I never heard of the bride and groom meeting that morning for breakfast? Why? You will hopefully be having breakfast together for the rest of your lives.  It is like opening your Christmas presents before Christmas.

Answer 6

I wouldn't let him see me before the wedding because I think you do want the moment he see's you in your dress to be breathtaking.  The breakfast idea was really cool.  I recommend the breakfast idea.

Answer 7

We saw each other before the ceremony - there was a gathering at my mom's house for family to give their blessing to us, then we went to church together.

I do like the idea of meeting for breakfast that morning - before you go on and get all beautified....

Answer 8

I'm getting married on a cruise in October and the ceremony isn't until the evening so I imagine it will be difficult not to see him all day. I think the important part is that he not see you dressed for the wedding before you're walking down the aisle. So if you want to meet for breakfast I don't see a problem with that but once you start getting ready don't let him see you until you are on the way down the aisle that is the special part.

Answer 9

You can see each other in the morning. but once you START getting ready, you wont see each other until the ceremony.

Answer 10

You probably won't have time, as things will be hectic from the night before on through the wedding.

We didn't do it, because there was no time.  But we also kept the other traditions as well(no s*x before marriage, no shacking, etc).

Answer 11

I didn't let him see me or the dress before the wedding.

When I walked down the aisle, he had the cutest smile on his face and he started crying... which made me cry!

It was worth it.

Answer 12

I didn't even let him see my dress before we got married.  It was amazing to see him-  he has the biggest grin on his face.  It was so sweet. :)

Answer 13

I didn't do it the first time - we got divorced.  I did do it the second, we're still married - go figure...

Answer 14

my husband and i did a small elopement and we had to drive 6 hours to the place we got married at. So we saw each other before the ceremony. He never saw my dress, but he saw my hair and make up and he still got choked up during the ceremony. He said it didn't affect my entrance because he couldn't see everything together and even his imagination didn't do anything for how beautiful I looked when he first saw me walk down the isle.

Answer 15

I think you should wait.  It will make you walking down the aisle towards him very special.  Not to mention with all the getting ready of you and your girls will probably be a lot more time consuming and then you might feel more rushed to have to be ready to have a meeting with your Fiance beforehand also.  You have the rest of your lives to have breakfast together.  Enjoy the hecticness and craziness of the day and let him spend the morning getting ready with the guys and thinking of you.

Answer 16

I won't see him before the ceremony,because I want that moment to be breathtaking to him. I kinda ike the breakfast idea though!

Answer 17

My fiance will not see me untilI walk down the  aisle .I want it all to be a surprise.  I did show him pics of dresses I treid on, but not the "one", nor will he kmnow how I am doing my hair.

We are having our rehearsal on a Friday amd that will be the last time I see him until our wedidng on Sunday.

I want it to be a magical moment . He has all day after to see me in my dress.

Answer 18

I was with my husband all day before the wedding.  It was nice to spend time with each other and work together to get things done.  But after I returned from getting my hair done, we were in separate rooms and he didn't see me until I walked down the aisle.  

I like your breakfast idea.  You should do what you think is good for the 2 of you---that's all that matters!

Good luck on your wedding!

Answer 19

I'm getting married May 09....I'm not superstitious either, but my fiance' and I won't be seeing each other before the ceremony.  Because I want us to wait to see each other when I'm walking down the aisle with my dad.  Its just something special.  I can't wait for that day to come!!!!!

Answer 20

I'm not letting him see  me before the wedding, because I want that look in his eye when I walk down the aisle. I'll probably cry, but I'll have a tissue! ( I cry when I get really happy & emotional)

We'll have plenty time to talk that night & the next morning about the day and I CAN NOT WAIT!

Oh, this made me smile, I can't wait to get married, but I have a year and 2 months.

Answer 21

I think it's fine to see each other in the morning, before you get your hair done, dress on, etc.  Once you start getting ready, I think that's when he should not see you until the ceremony - until the transformation's complete!

Answer 22

I'm not superstitious either, but my fiance' and I won't be seeing each other before the ceremony. I want that "wow" moment when he sees me walking down the aisle in my gown. He and I will have a moment before the ceremony, however. I have seen so many beautiful photos of the bride and groom stealing a moment, with him out in the hall, and her behind the door, both holding hands =]

Answer 23

we spent the morning together, then i had to get my hair done.  then we spent time together at the ceremony site, until we had to go get dressed.  so still got to be around each other but he didn't see me in dress, make up till i was coming down the aisle

Answer 24

We are going to see each other before the ceremony. The whole day will be so hectic, I think a quiet moment between the two of us (with the photographer snapping pictures at a distance) so he can really get a good look at my dress (which he hasn't seen at all yet) and we can just be together before the hecticness starts again will be romantic and sweet. Plus, he's very shy in front of people, so he doesn't seem like the type to "react" like you'd think of most grooms doing. And, this lets us get all of the pictures done before the ceremony, so we don't cut into our reception time. :)

Answer 25

I do not plan on seeing my fiance before our wedding ceremony. I am not superstitious either, but I just want the first time we see each other to be the moment that I enter the church and walk down the isle.

I plan on having breakfast at my house with my bridesmaids that morning and then we are getting out hair done at my house as well.

My fiance' and his guys are staying at my dad's house the night before so they can start the morning out together and do their thing to.

Answer 26

We are going on a horse drawn cariage ride before our wedding together, which will take us to our cermony site. But that moment will be our first time seeing each other in our wedding clothes. Honestly, I think the moment of walking down the aisle toward him will be so beautiful and so emotional that no matter what you do, it will still be overpowering.

Answer 27

after my friend's wedding, her and her new husband took 20 minutes  in the bridal dressing room alone.  (lol..not that way)  they arrangedto have  a fruit platter and some wine  be there, and no one..( NO ONE) was allowed to interfere until they were ready to join the party.  very sweet if you ask me.  that way you have some time alone before the reception.

good luck, and have a lovely wedding!!!

Answer 28

You can have the best of both worlds honey :o)

See him for breakfast (and maybe even have your photographer take a few intimate pre-pics) before you turn into that magical princess (wedding dress adorned) that will bring tears of joy to his eyes upon sight at the head of the aisle.

:o)  This way, you both still get to steal some private time away together AND you get to see that "I can't believe my eyes!" expression on his face later on that same day.

Priceless (Have your photographer +/or videographer capture it.)

Hope I've helped.