Seeing my ex could you help for 10 points?

Question

So long story short: My ex broke up with me becuase i became a little to "needy" for her liking, being there all the time and such, buying things for her, doing all these nice things too much without giving her any space..she said she "just wanted to be friends" and "didnt want to date anyone right now"

So after i begged for 2 days to take me back (which wasnt going to work) i did give her space...i went home for a month and a half. So i've gotten over her, a lot, and really dont know if I even would want her back now (becuase of the way she treated me, hanging out wtih other guys after the break up (no dating my ***!), the fact I did so much for her without much in return)..but when I get back to school I will see her again and she already is flirting and wants to hang out with me. She has tried to push the "friends" thing since I left, but i have always made the converstaion exciting and then cut it short after 5 minutes for fear of slipping into the dreaded "friends zone".

Anyway, she's flirting and is asking when im coming back and when i can hang out and stuff. We have a bet going where if i lose I gotta give her a foot massage.

I want people's opinions on if I should forget this girl completely, or see her again and show here the man I am while being distant (almost playing hard to get). Can I get this girl back into my arms? Or is she just trying to keep me hanging on? One things for sure, if i did hang out with her again I wouldnt be on my hands and knees for her like before! Im not sure if i want this girl, or if I just want to make her want me again!

Any opinions on this?

Answer 1

Turn over a new leaf man and give it another chance for sure.  

Answer 2

in my opinion, people don't deserve another chance. If there was something wrong in the relationship before, what makes you think the mistakes will happen again. anyway, i think you need to get a life away from that girl. this is how i see it, your just her little rebound guy. if there's no one that can satisfy her then she turns to you. really sucks... but hey this is only my opinion. just do whatever you feel is right. be spontaneous. =D

Answer 3

she sounds like the type of girl who always sees "the grass on the other side of the fence as greener" .. once she's "conquered" you... played with you.. you seem dull.. and another person seems shiny and she''ll go after that person until she's conquered them.. and they'll seem dull.. and you'll look shiny etc etc etc...

be a friend if you want.. but unless you enjoy your heart being ripped out, tossed in a blender, pureed and dumped in the garbage disposal.. i wouldn't date that chick (unless she's just absolutely fantastic in bed.. if she is, then "buddys" ok too.  

Answer 4

i meen if you keep her she is jsut going to do tha same thing but if u let her go your over her and so it wont hurt you wont fall for her again and like yeah.... she is your past not your future

Answer 5

I have something similar going on except I never went out with this guy. My story is that this guy texted me one day telling me that he liked me and he was always texting and telling me he wanted to see me. But we waited, not wanting to rush into anything because we wanted to get to know each other first. The thing is, three weeks ago he told me he just wanted to be friends and suddenly things got weird between us. Then we stopped talking for two weeks and all of a sudden he wanted to see me again and he made such an attempt to get me to hang out with him. The thing is, school does start next week so...

what I'm thinking is, maybe in our situations, the people we like or are interested in are trying to get closer to us so that when we go back to school, it won't be so awkward. That's what I think. And if the girl you like has been around JUST flirting but hasn't gotten a boyfriend since you guys broke up, maybe she's looking to hook up again so that she has someone by the time school starts. It's also possible and more than likely the fact that she misses the attention you were giving her especially if he hasn't gotten the same from other guys.

If you're no longer head over heels for her and are unsure that you're interested, it's safer now to test this out without having to worry about a broken heart. You test this by letting her chase you for a bit, and see how far she goes. If she really wants you back, you'll be surprised with the things she'll come up with to see and talk to you again. But let her work for you. If you see that she gives up easily, then you know she was thinking of just using you for something. If she keeps it up, well, then let her. Now it's her turn to do the chasing and give YOU all the attention ;)

Whatever the outcome may be, I hope things work out for you regardless :)

Answer 6

Sorry dude, i don't think this is love... She probably misses the favours you did for her such as the buying of gifts etc. If they don't love you the first time, they will never love you. I think her reason of you being too needy is bs ... she probably used that as an excuse to see other people. Girls have a way to make you crawl back to them even though they hurt you before. If you really wanted to hang out with her, i reckon you should keep her distant .. stop treating her to favours and break it off with her before she breaks your heart again. There are heaps of other girls out there.

Answer 7

sounds like shell probly hurt you again!

its like she only wants to see you and be with you when she wants to and when she can be bothered, id say move on.

Answer 8

move on my friend, i know its difficult decision, but your  not nobodies puppet.

Answer 9

I don't like the way she is treating you like you are some type of toy she can use you when ever she feels like i think you should get  ride of her you are a nice guy you will find some 1 nice and made for you . you did so many things for her and she does not aappreciateit image how she  will you if you married her .  

Answer 10

What i always say is that ahve u ever heard someone say,' well I decided to give him/her another chance and we got married!'  

Answer 11

forget about her she just gonna  break your heart again  be strong find a new chick you will be better off

Answer 12

Im stupid for reading all of that..lol, ok so its like this dude, Be and adult and talk to her like you would someone at church or a friend you use to know, dont be rude and crude, just keep things simple and light, she will get the drift...because right now in her mind..I can tell you, she thinks shes got you around her finger cause, " like and idiot" you BEGGED her to come back, what girl wouldnt love that...show her you have moved on emotionally and be cool and be yourself.

Answer 13

ask her .

Answer 14

Well you said it yourself, your not sure if you want her back. With that being said there is doubt. So I say no. Only you can make that choice. It sounds to me she wants something she can't have.

Answer 15

hey man, you sound like a really sweet and awesome guy. i had a friend just like you in the same situation. it was terrible, the girl used him for all he had and didn't even give him the appreciation that he deserved. i don't think that you should go back to your ex, especially since she was dishonest about the " i don't want to date anyone right now." i think any guy in your possition should just forget the girl and move on. there could be someone else that is better for you, you just have to look.   and to answer your question, i think that you just want her to want you again. kind of like you are getting the attention that you really wanted from that person but realizing that it doesn't make you as happy as you desired.

Answer 16

drop her like a hot potato.  shes into mind games and u deserve better than that

Answer 17

This type of girl likes the chase. When you were dating before you were too dependable. Not exciting or unpredictable. Take my word for it, if you give in and start seeing her again she will cool off and drop you again. Enjoy the 'game' she's playing by keeping it light. BUT find SOMEONE ELSE to have a relationship with.She'll only hurt you in the end.  

Answer 18

Man,, have empathy now people are not going to read that long......

Just be yourself and don't try toooooo hard!!

Answer 19

If it were me, I'd feel like she'd had her chance, she choose to treat you like she did w/the back & forth bit, then cut you off completely.  Now all of a sudden she's back again?  I feel you're on the rite track when you said you don't know if you really want her back again.  The school yr. has just started, she knows you, you're like a comfort zone to her to get her started that she "has someone" when she starts back to school.  Then what happens when she meets other guys, finds one she just might take a liking to, then there you are back again w/the same "friend" story w/you.  I always said, if you make a fool of me once, I should have learned from that.  But if you do it to me twice, then it's my fault for making the same mistake twice.  I feel you're on the rite track when you say she's just a bit too "iffy".  I'm sure you can find someone completely new, have a good relationship, & put this one in the past.  Start a whole new beginning for yourself.  I feel you sure do deserve it.  What gives her the rite to come back to you after the game playing she's already done in the past to you.  Start off w/a nice fresh start to the new yr.  Give yourself a chance of meeting someone new & not getting yourself tied up w/past experiences.  You owe yourself a chance to at least see who else is available.  You deserve this chance, take it...Best to you...:)

Answer 20

that's deep hon the game of tiger and mouse, that's right and your the mouse. ask your self what does a large cat do with a mice. know ask your self would a true friend or girlfriend would had never put you though all that. your best bet is to feed her with a Long handle spoon and get a real lady, unless you enjoy being on the slab. good luck.

Answer 21

i think you should definitely guard your heart a little more i mean she ended things very poorly.. i think that being her friend is what you really need and seeing other girls would give you a better perspective.. maybe you'll find a girl that LOVES The way you treated your ex... sometimes there are people we love but could never make it work with.. i think you deserve someone that's a better fit

Answer 22

Ok in the PAST I think I was just like this girl! I think she thinks you still like her, like you'll never get over her beautifulness! (haha not real word buh heeey I'm trying to explain) she could be sooo full of herself so she thinks she could get you back like THAT!!! heheh . Go ahead &see her its not like you'll just fall in love with her again. No compliments, when you see her haaaa! Just act like she's a regular friend & act the way from now on, like you guys never had a past. BUT if you see that she's change & she apologizes or something MAYBE you can give her another chance. By the way you treated her...SHE HAD IT GOOD! My boyfriend treats me as good as you treated her. so she was the dummbb blind one! Be strong lol!

Answer 23

Keep your distance, sweetie.  Just remember-- you're heartbroken, not brain dead.  She didn't treat you well and you deserve better.  If you are going to treat a woman like a queen, hold out for one who will treat you like a king in return.  They're out there.