Seen as miserable and unhappy all the time?

Question

This is not the irst time a family member has told me that I seem miserable and unhappy most of the time. I can't believe this. I feel like I'm smiling most of the time, I know I am a very unhappy person on the inside but I didn't think other people knew that as well. I wonder if this makes people like me less. It probably does. No I am miserable and upset about it. I can't help I'm quiet and meek! Please help?

Answer 1

Honey, no one is going to dislike someone for being sad. I am sure they are just concerned.  Perhaps talking to these family members about what is bothering you would be a good start. Good Luck.

Answer 2

Never stop smiling. Ever. No matter what you're doing, no matter how inappropriate. Even if you're at a funeral.

Answer 3

It probably just makes them worry and they're trying to talk to you about it.  Is there any particular reason you're unhappy, or is it more an overall feeling of being low or down all the time?  I would say talk to them, they obviously care even though you're trying to hide it - and you might feel better for getting it out of your system x*x

Answer 4

To find happiness with yourself, the easiest way is to reduce the times when you are in your own companionship.  You can be with yourself even in a crowded room if everybody around you is a stranger.

You need to find a lot of people who are known to you, not necessarily close to you.  Structure your time in a way so that you spent short spans of time with these people.  It can be a known person in a store near you, it can be a co-worker, it can be anybody.  Find ways to talk to them or ways to do something with them.  If you see a coworker doing something, just say "can I help" and start helping.

Answer 5

ya i am often miss-understood my self, some thank I'm unhappy and they are right lol and some thank I'm angry and they are right lol. but i to keep these things to my self and try not to show it.

so any ways, the thing i try to do is first not let it get to me.

second try thanking of good things and go for a walk that's always good to get out. I thank i know how you fill because I'm not kidding with you here, some times I fill like what the h**l is the point in all this. I have a good carrier yet my life is so d**n empty. so focusing on good things you can thank of and hobbies help.

Answer 6

That's what family do. They obviously know you long enough to know that you're not truly content even if you do appear to be physically.

They care & I don't think that should be misconstrued as anything other than that.

Maybe you should just talk it out with your family members, see what the root of the problem is. I mean you have their support after all.

Answer 7

observe yourself, especially the words coming out of your mouth. Do you complain alot? Talk badly about others? Be more pessimistic than optimistic?

Physically, do you smile alot?, laugh and crack jokes?

Those are the signs of a happy person. I don't understanf what you mean by meek. It sounds to me like timid. ie exhibiting a feeling that you are insignificant. Perhaps the best way to deal with your unhappiness is to talk about it. From personal experience, you can't fool people. I used to hide my true self b/c i grew up with the belief that who i was was wrong, but people still accused me of the same personality traits even though i thought i was doing a great job hiding my real self.

Answer 8

people can see the slightest misfractions in people , prolly why they could tell even with a smile

Answer 9

everybody with more than half a brain is miserable. Revel in it. Wear your distress like an outsized Groucho nose, moustache and glasses. Stop trying to hide it. Be proud to belong to the club where no one would want you as a member.

Dead serious about that. Wish I wasn't.

Hang in there.

Answer 10

If someone is making the observation, it means that they care about you.  Nobody will like you less for it, they just want to help with whatever you're going through.

It's okay to be quiet, just make sure that you're not blocking out those who love you.  Try talking to the people who've mentioned it to you. They're really trying to be supportive.

Answer 11

Are you quite and meek or unhappy.  Being fake or putting up a front will always make people not like you.  Just be yourself, find out what makes you happy and do those things.  But you have to be yourself to figure out what makes you happy.

Answer 12

Unhappiness emanates.

Some of the most unpleasant people to be around are often smiling and acting pleasant. You should try accepting your unhappiness and maybe that'll help it dissolve. At the very least it can help you reach out to friends for support "What we resist persists."