Self-confidence and faith issues - Help -?

Question

I do not know where to turn. I truly will never be happy in-life. The reason for that, is that I hate myself. I hate the way I look, and my personality is constantly changing. I have no faith in anything I do, and I get angry every day (BADLY). I think it all stems from my insecurities that I have with my appearance.

I am 16, and a male. Any tips? Just saying to "accept" my looks or personality issues won't help either.

Answer 1

Your still growing, so give it time. You will go through these things, try talking to a counsellor face to face and explain whats happening, the way you have typed it here. Good Luck and dont give up on yourself! There is a light at the end of the tunnel!

Answer 2

why do u say that way? I am sure u don look that bad.. post pictures.. let us see.. hating yourself doesn't help. I always believe in one thing, we all deserve to feel happy, so i hope u will seek the happiness. It must be understood, things could have got worst, so what u can do now do, realise wat is self-contentment... and try to work on your grooming and other things which u can change.

You know, everybody are born differently, and if a person looks really good, it means they are really lucky to be born that way.. we don't have a choice how we want to be born like..

I have been through this "not satisfied with looks" stuffs.. but trust me that once u get a bit older, u will realise that looks is not everything ! And the first thing u need to do, stop hating yourself !!!!! U have to love yourself so other people can accept u. If u can't accept yourself, it is harder for them to accept u too.

Good luck, i hope u understand wat i am saying !!  

Answer 3

www.postsecret.com

It turned my life around....

It lets you know, that you are not the only one out there feeling this way.

Read it.

Enjoy it.

Love it.

Love you.

Answer 4

make sure you're being true to yourself. just find who you really are and stick with it. quit worrying about what people think because it really doesn't matter and if u quit worrying about what people think then you're self confidence will show and you will appear more attractive especially once people get to know u. live more like this - have the situation centered instead of focusing on yourself or what the other person thinks of you as much. if u can do that then u will be a lot happier.

Answer 5

Find the Book "Prayer of Jazez for teens"  It will help you deal with your woeful feelings.  Appeal to God in prayer.  While you may not lose that 'ugly duckling" feeling, you will begin to know that God has a plan for your life, and He can help you have a peace in your life.  Psalm 139 outlines how we were created for God's glory.  He enjoys us and loves us just the way we look.  As to your anger issue, find a responsible adult, such as a school counselor, who can help you identify the cause of your upset.  Some people use their looks in positive ways AND GET PAID money for it.  Organize an "ugly contest."  I always felt ugly, but hey, I grew up and married a wonderful man.  Anger is not pretty.  Write essays about the way you feel.  Research ways you can turn your looks into a positive thing.  Like dude, my teeth are WAY ugly. (really!!!).  Being a comedian, I just stick ugly teeth in my mouth, say "You think these are ugly, you should see the real things!"  Get a laugh on yourself.  It will help you feel so much better.  And oh, remember the story about the ugly duckling turning into a beautiful swan.  He was a male swan at that.

Answer 6

Personally, I turn to God, but I don't know your religious views.

Hating yourself is just wrong, you need to love yourself, flaws and all. The changing personality thing, maybe you should speak with a professional, they could help. :) Being insecure can bring out so many emotions. Try to look at your good qualities! Your so young, you need to enjoy life! Try to not think so much about the bad stuff. Good luck with everything. :)  

Answer 7

Ask your parents to make you a Dr. appointment.  When you talk with your Dr., tell him what you just said here.  He will most likely refer you to someone who can help you with your insecurities about your appearance.  If it helps, lots of young guys feel the same way even though you don't hear it from them.  In the mean time, practice treating yourself like you wish other people would.  Be good to yourself and when you get angry, tell yourself that this is a temporary problem and you are going to get to the solution.  As soon as you talk with your Dr. you'll feel lots better.

Answer 8

Counseling and perhaps environment change. You will be 18 in 2 years. I'd move out asap. Helped me.