Self confidence / looks question?

Question

Some days I think I'm pretty. Some days I think I'm average looking. Some days I feel funny looking. I wish I could feel pretty and confident everyday. I just moved to a new school, and the girls here are gorgeous. They make me feel insecure because they come in wearing sweats and a loose tee but they still have a pretty face. I just don't think I have a pretty face. I would like to think there is more to life than looks but it's hard feeling like you're unattractive. Sometimes when I'm talking to someone at the school, even a teacher, I pull try to put my bangs over my face because I don't want them to think I'm funny looking or ugly. I'm sixteen and a jr in high school. I really want to stop feeling like this.

Btw, I am a middle eastern mix. Not a blonde haired blue eyed girl. And no, I don't have weight problems. It's just my features that I am unsure of. I wish I could see myself the way people see me. Most of all, I want to stop thinking this about myself. I want to be pretty and always feel confident. Any advice or suggestions would be much appreciated.

Answer 1

U r pretty !!!! No one is better than u. And u r no better than them u need to see pretty and beautiful from the inside looks r not everything and not everybody goes by them and u still have life changes to go thru and your way of thinking will change pretty is what u do and say and succeed n ot fashion and dont hide your face y get that chin up get a hair cut or dye it to make a change to feel better about your self and u will!!!!!

Answer 2

blondes are boring. middle easterners have some of the prettiest faces on the planet.

Answer 3

Well everyone may say beauty isn't everything but in a way IT IS. If you feel beautiful, you're more confident, you have more fun, you take care of yourself more. Plus who said blue-eyed blonde is the only pretty type of girl, theyre OVERRATED & I think brunettes are much hotter, so be proud of your exotic beauty look at the VS models the most beautiful ones are brunette! Plus those girls you think may look pretty but you never know they may feel the exact same way as you, they just know how to hide it better, guys like it when girls carry themselves in confidence because it makes you more outgoing which guys like. So if you feel a little let down play around with makeup, do stuff with your hair, dress up nice, & look up when you walk, if you feel pretty you will be pretty, it'll just shine through! Trust me.

Answer 4

there are no ugly 16 year olds. really. you have youth and that is fantastic. plus, with your heritage, you have that mysterious exotic look. why would you even want to be a blue eyed blonde?? be happy for who you are. and you are right, it's the other qualities that really count because looks are temporary and they are just the packaging. Not the product.

Answer 5

Hey there, Trust me, it's not just you feeling insecure about your looks. I'm sure you are a beautiful young lady who is as attractive as the girls you admire. you are going through puberty, which is the stage where you're highly sensitive just about everything. Teen years are rough times, especially with low self-esteem.

What you have to work on for now is change your standard of beauty. Asian, Middle Eastern, Caucasian, African, etc. they all have their own beauty. No race is better or worse than one another, they are just different according to their own origin. Just like how men and women are different from each other. It's silly that you are even comparing yourself to the others, pfff.

I'm Asian, so I pretty much see other races as 'beautiful' and I'm very jealous of them because they have what I can't have in terms of looks. but sometimes Blond girls tell me they think slant eyes are exotic and s**y, sometimes black girls tell me they want my small nose. just like how i would trade my looks to what they have.

You said you are a middle eastern mix. God, I can't imagine how you could not like what you have there! I have a friend who is from Pakistan, and she has the most beautiful eyes I've ever seen in my life. I think that middle eastern mix can be really s**y and attractive. In fact I've seen a lot of them.

Girl, you are a little bit young to figure out your own beauty. Your body isn't fully developed and you are still stuck in high school where you encounter the same people everyday. So you can't really see what is going on in the outside world just yet. How you see' beautiful' in school won't be the same 'beautiful' once you get out of school. There are so many qualities that people will approve as beautiful and attractive other than just looks.  You should realize looks are so subjective.

Cheer up friend!

Hope you'll feel better after this comment.  

Answer 6

We all have those qualms periodically, so think of Catherine Bell.  She is Iranian and has risen above it.   You will too.  

Answer 7

That does not matter!! some brunettes are prettier than the same old blondes anyway.

It doesn't matter how you look, if you show confidence, and like you don't care how you look, and just simply know your beautiful, you will be. People Will think "she's cool" because you don't care about that stuff and whoever cool bis known as attractive!

Answer 8

Beauty is multpilied by about 100 when one is confident. Personality and confidence and being a great, nice person really truly does make somebody pretty, not even kidding. I'm from middle eastern parents and I like the way I look sometimes too. But I'm working on it and I make sure I feel confident at school or wherever because it makes a hugee difference. Don't worry too much about people judging you, you don't have to look like a model, everyone is beautiful whether you believe it or not. I had always used to want blue eyes and when I was really little I wanted blonde hair really badly but I have learned that I am beautiful for who I am and that everyone has the potential to appear beautiful. If you are confident, you will be seen as beautiful. Make sure you love who you are and carry yourself with pride. :]