Self esteem issues..?

Question

how the heck do you help someone with self esteem issues??

my boyfriend has a really low self esteem && i donno what to do to help him cuz he hates when people help him..hes kinda a free soul..dosent think he needs help with anything.

but in reality..he needs alot. i tell him he looks good he dont believe me. i tell him he did a good job at something..he looks at all the things he didnt do.. he thinks so negative..

&& i talked to him about how it bothers me and i donno what to do he needs to change cuz i can see it hurting him. & he just says to bad im not changing..so what can i do to help his self esteem that doesnt involve constatly praising him?

Answer 1

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Answer 2

My ex girlfriend was exactly the same. My suggestion to you is to tell him that feeling sorry for himself all the time isn't going to make his life any better, but in fact make it worse.

If i were you i would give him a chance to change his perspective on life, otherwise sack him and move on. You can't suffer because he can't see the good things in life, like yourself.

Relationships like this are destined for trouble, save yourself some heart ache

Answer 3

make him watch lots of cartoons! hahaha.. actually cartoons are good stress reliever and as we all know all the impossible things are possible in cartoons. The mind become more creative and appreciative of the simple things. maybe it could help him become more lively and become more positive of the good things that is happening in his life.

Also try not to be vocal whenever you praise him instead make him feel it. Actions are powerful than words specially when words are consistently used. Don't make him change the kind of person he should be instead make him improve to be the person he wants to be. :)

Answer 4

just tell him that he has a gf like you how can he be bad looking or does he think you're too easy??

Answer 5

it's hard to change someone attitude and a lot of men does not like their girlfriend telling them what they have to do, or how they have to behave etc.  There's no point to be bothered by his attitude, nobody is perfect. By the time if you still make him focus in a subtle way on the positive side of things, he will change.