Self - esteem / mom help?

Question

My mom is slender, short, and petite. She is pretty. They say I look like her, but in truth she is a lot prettier than me. She is constantly worrying over her weight and she makes me feel bad that I am overweight.I am kind of overweight. Not too much, but enough that it is noticable. I am only 13 and I weigh 160 pounds. I need to loose weight, I know. (You can help with that too if you'd like). I know she cares about me, but the truth is that she is married and has four children but she used to be like me when she was my age. Now, since she is skinny, guys that are even my age "check her out", and sometimes she seems to enjoy it. (Don't you dare offend her!)

Now, I don't think I am like most teenagers. I really am not interested in dating at the moment, I am more into school and books and my family's needs. My biggest problem is that, next to my mother, I feel small. Like I am in her shadow. I am a good student, so my teachers like me and all, but I am starting a new school this year, and to make matters slightly more complex, my mother (who I am grateful to for taking me out of my previous horrible school) is a frequent substitue there. I don't like to be compared to anyone. In my other school, kids were good to me because they knew me since elementary and they know that I don't mess with anyone. Now, I don't want my self-esteem to take any more blows to bring it lower than it already is. Can you help me bring up my self-esteem and stop feeling like my mother's overweight, ugly version?

Answer 1

Self-esteem is always a really difficult thing to deal with.

Find some things about you that you really like, and try to enhance those. Like, if you have beautiful eyes, maybe wear a little bit of eyeliner to make them pop. Style your hair a way that flatters your face. Find things that make you feel good.

Stop comparing yourself to your mom. That's another thing. Comparing yourself to someone never helps you. You're unique and your own person, completely separate from your mom.

Find people to talk to at your new school that seem fun, and find out if you have anything in common to bond over.

Also, if you're that self-conscious about your weight, try walking or running for a short time each day. Add more time as you begin to feel like you can handle it. Dance while you're home alone and doing chores. Just find ways to get active. And don't pig out on junk food, either.

Answer 2

Practice being alone for a few minutes each day and increase the time by ten minutes per session. Keep a paper and pencil handy . Write your thoughts to keep in a book. Be still and find peace.

Answer 3

You and your mom are two different people. She might be pretty, but so are you. A great personality is always better. If kids at school make comments, just go along with it then shrug it off. Tell your mom how you feel..be confident :]

Hope you feel better love!