Self injury, what are your thoughts/comments?

Question

what are your thoughts and comments on selfharm?

im now im grade nine and i've been hurting myself since i was in grade four. its addicting to me, and way too hard to break the habit especially since ive been used to it for so long.. after i did this http://i213.photobucket.com/albums/cc91/x_maddyy/011.jpg?t=1218771121 (skinning my arm along concrete, which was a lot worse than it looks in this picture), i thought i would never hurt myself purposely again. but now that its healed, ive got cuts covering my left arm. im too scared to get professional help although i know i NEED it.

Answer 1

I know i will get many thumbs down on this but I have to be honest and that is the only way i can answer these questions because if i didn't do it honest then why would i want to be here at all to lie is to tell someone what you think they want to hear and not our true answers. I always thought anyone who hurts them self is sick in some way and they are either doing it for someone to feel sorry for them or doing it to punish them self for some reason an idea in the head or a thought of something they felt they needed punished for but then I read in the Holy Bible that there was a person whom had a demon spirit in them and they cut them self and so honestly i would say the bible doesn't lie and now all i can think is that anyone who does this just needs serious pray and help to stop doing it because they have no control of it them self.

Answer 2

Get help and get it now.NOt only do you need help for you but don't ever have any kids if you dont get help now.

Answer 3

Hey there.

Coming from a fellow self harmer, I know it's an addiction. It's just as addicting to people like us as alchohal and drugs are to other people.

Yes, it would be healthier for you to stop. it would help your life a great deal, I'm not going to deny that. But I'm not going to preach to you, either, because I've made no effort to stop so who am I to tell you what you should do?  

The only thing I'm worried about is WHY you do it. If you can find an underlying cause, and then work on fixing that then things will go much easier for you.

I've been into self harm since about seventh grade, and believe it or not I knwo wht your going through. I'm not going to say it's not a bad thing, because it is. But you seem to want help, by broadcasting that you do it, so I advise you to go after what you think you need.

And please, please don't do the concreate thing again. That's very hard to control infections if you do that. And anytime you do selfharm, becareful of that. Use peroxide and clean it very well. I may not be able to make you stop doing it, but I can tell you how not to mae it worse on yourself. Try explaining an infected concrete burn to Mom, see how well she takes it lol.

And eventhough I'm I stranger, if you ever need to talk to anyone about anything, IM me.

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Answer 4

I had the same problem. I know how you feel. You need to find another way to deal with your problems in your life. Giving your body pain will not take away the other pain of your problems. Its just a distraction. Having a diary helps, or friends that will listen. And yes, therapy will help as well. I hope you overcome this . Are you in school? Most schools offer counseling.

Answer 5

It doesn't matter what other's feel or think about self injury.  What is important is that you have recognized that it's not good for you!  Allthough appearing completly different, self injury is principially not much different from habitual smoking, alcoholism, or any of the thousands of other compulsions and addictions.  Professionals can help you to discover your motivation of why you're doing this to your body.  Even though some people can stop these kind of behaviours on themself, most need to see and discover the persvective that only others can provide.  In other cases, medications are helpfull.  

Your fear of asking for help is understandable , but it is probably not as bad as you imagine it to be.  Everyone who has finally choosen to get the help they need, is glad that they did it.  The people trained to assist (medical people, mental health professionals) have no prejudices (hopefully) otherwise they wouldn't belong in this field...  good luck with your recovery!

Answer 6

Professional help may be the only thing that will help.  Until you have the courage to do that, you might want to go to your local library and look up books or CD's on cutting of self mutilating.  There are a lot of helpful websites regarding this topic as well, such as:  

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/self_inj...

I'm sure it took a lot of courage just for you to ask your question!  That is the first step...  I hope you will get the help you need so you can lead a productive and fulfilling life instead of harming yourself repeatedly.  Take care!

Answer 7

You know you need help, so the question now is how to get it. Don't be scared, professionals are only there to help you, not harm you, they don't send you to jail for hurting yourself. They help you find out why you hurt yourself, then help you deal with it. You can go to any teacher or couselor at school. A parent. But don't be discouraged if you go to your parents and you are greeted with denial, no one wants to believe their child is harming themself.  A family doctor is a good choice. Tell a friend you want help and ask them to tell for you. YOU WON'T OUTGROW THIS and YOU CAN'T DEAL WITH ON YOUR OWN. Next time may lead to extreme injury or death.  

Answer 8

I'm not sure of your question.  I started at age 12.  and am trying to stop now at age 16. My thoughts?  It's addicting.  yepp.  It's hard as h**l to stop and I'm not sure I even want to.  I mean...this is just the way i live.   It's just habit.  and living without it...forever?!?!?  I honestly can't think of anything more scary than that.  But that's the thing.  there IS life without it.  And I'm still scared but...from what I've heard it's amazing.  to not have to hide it.  to go swimming.  to stop spending money on band aids and scar reducer and stuff.  to wear short sleeves and shorts.  to not have to worry if a cut is infected.  to not have to lie to my friends and make excuses.  to not worry if it's bleeding to much.  and after thinking about that, quitting at least seems worth a try.  And you might need help to stop, and telling people about it can be terrifying, but it's gonna be worth it.  I promise.  You're strong and we both have our whole lives in front of us.  And I don't know about you, but I'm TIRED of worrying about getting blood on the bedsheets and freaking out when i cant find my blade right away in my purse. don't let this rule you're life. don't let this define you. you are so much more than a "cutter" or whatever.

and you deserve to be happy.

Answer 9

You definitely need help... This is not normal... Please go get help and quickly before you progress to more damaging abuse..

Answer 10

I think you need professional help,Don't be afraid to go talk to someone,This is nothing to be ashamed of.You have a long life ahead of you,Well that is if you stop self hurting your self.I wish you the Best of luck!

Answer 11

one of my friends write on thier skin with knives. you may need preffetional help. but if you can tell by your self you can do it by yourself

Answer 12

okay, i cant say that i know exactly what you are going through...but i know the feeling. i used to cut myself..some nights i would do it at least 5 times. it is a very addicting thing, and nothing but yourself can make you stop. my dad tried to stop me once he figured out i was cutting myself, but it didnt ever work b/c i kept on doing it b/c i wanted to. you have to want to stop. i can tell you right now that professional help wont do c**p. talking to some stranger about your problems is gonna be a lot harder than just talking to your friends or family b/c you know they wont judge you. you just have to commit to stopping. its a hard process and a very hard road that you have ahead of you, but if you put enough strength and faith in yourself i know you can make it through. 5 years is a very long time to be addicted to cutting yourself, but if you really truely want to stop, then you have to try.  

Answer 13

the truth is, that once you show blood to the outside world, tiny microbes are able to seep in and since it has been cut, white blood cells are there to fight off infection,  You may be becoming more immune to microbacterial germs, therefore you have more resistance to sickness.

Hey, I can't tell you what you do to your body in this case...that's up to you.  Like in my philosophy, what you do will eventually become a trend of its own....I really havent thought through that quote well enough, though I hope the point is there....Do what you like to do, if you like to hurt yourself, you can eventually one day teach little kids about hurting themselves...Good for you.

Answer 14

Okay, um, the question is WHY do you do it?

....Because you heard so-and-so was "cutting" themselves? Or did you just get up one day and say "I wanna make myself bleed!!"

Answer 15

I have no history of self-injury, but lately I've had the uncontrollable compulsion to break a bone or sprain an ankle. I just cannot get over the instinct towards self-preservation long enough to get it done.

I'll probably do it eventually just to see what it's like.

Answer 16

Don't you love your body? Why would you want to hurt yourself?

What are you trying to prove?

That you are injury prone?

Don't do it anymore. Have some self-control. Be responsible for your own health and well-being. Your body is on loan.  

Answer 17

I've heard that sometimes people self harm to relieve tension.  Find another way to relieve your tension, eg. exercise or sport.

Answer 18

Ok, I know you say that it is hard to get professional help and that you are scared, but you do need the help. You need someone to talk to that is a professional and knows about cases like yours. You also may need medication and may suffer from depression or anxiety or both. It's ok I have anxiety, but medication helps.

You need to sit down with your mom, dad, grandparent, whoever it is you love with and who cares for you and tell them that you have been doing this and you need and want to stop, but you need help to do that.

They will support you and get you the help you need I am sure. Your loved ones will support you and you aren't going through it alone they will be right there with you.

I wish you the best of luck and will be praying for you.