Self realisation.....

Question

After my reoccuring dreams of a friend who passed....I've had this huge wake up call.....or have I? I mean I used to be so wrapped up in my 'tragic' love life with my grilfriend and my cheer leading and being worried about holding the position of captain and developing celulite which I thought was going to ruin me.....and now since these dreams about my passed friend.....it's like I see things differently without trying to!!! Why am I being so different? I mean not that my old self was perfect but I don't like being like this all the time now.....WHY AM I SO CONFUSED?!?! Am I crazy for asking about sensitive (I guess) things like this on a bloody forum??? Should I see a shrink???

*Is this a phase or am I changing for the worse?*

Answer 1

These so called "dreams" of a passed friend are actually them meeting with you in the form that you both are - that of spirits. Listen and try to understand the dream, as the person is trying to help you.

peacefromken.

Answer 2

Losing a loved one (your friend), always has a big impact on people, it makes them realise what they've lost, so yes your right its a "wake up call"

It also looks like you paid more attention to your love life and your cheer leading, than understanding whats more important in life, like your friends and other things, but its also important keep focused on what you want, because if you give people what they want all the time than you lose yourself.

You need to focus on yourself again basically, keep the position of captain of cheer leading, and keep your love life going, because without focusing on yourself, you lose yourself and become wrapped up in pain and go into a depression, like the shock of losing your friend.

Ask Phoebe.

Answer 3

Don't worry it is quite natural to feel confused, and to have a change in attitude after someone close dies.  It usually is a change for the better, eventually.  

We can have different sometimes opposing feelings and this is always confusing until we realise it is valid to feel either of those ways in different situations.  

A person can be angry with the person who died, or God or themselves and it doesn't make sense to them but do realise that it is okay to feel anger that the person you care about is not with you now.  (Or any other type of feeling).

If you remain anxious then perhaps have a session with someone who either is trained in bereavement counselling or who has had a close loss.  Most people ask if they are going mad.  It is just such a sudden and dramatic change in your priorities.  

Lets face it, your friend is far more important than cellulite.  But previously you weren't comparing the two.

Being understood helps!

Answer 4

PERFECT ???

No one is PERFECT dear....

                                 Just Meditate.............

then u'll Forget................ Don't waste ur time thinking of friends coz ur BEST friend can be ur GREATEST ENEMY..............

Answer 5

You're experiencing something called "learning", it usually comes when you lose a loved one, you learn more about life once you've felt a certain level of pain.

Just like a child learns something is hot when they touch it, you're learning it hurts to lose someone.

You've likely become more intune to the fact that anyone around you could die at any moment, could it be a second from now? A minute? Maybe an hour? They could die right infront of you, and you know there's nothing you can do.. to stop it.

It's a harsh lesson, be glad you're learning this, be glad you're changing because of it.