Sending out wedding invitations?

Question

Is it etiquette to send a weding invitation to each bridesmaid, groomsmen and usher (as well as other readers, ring bearer & flower girl, etc)? My fiance and I have sent invitations out to our friends and family, and a list from each of our parents combined. Since we live in a small town, many of the people standing up in the wedding are friends and their families are "family friends". Meaning that we have sent an invitation out to their family including "and family" which would cover the wedding member. For those wedding members that did not have a family invitation sent out, do we send one to them?

Some have said that it is custom to send each wedding member an invitation personally, while others say that it is mainly assumed that they are in the wedding, and that an invitation does not need to be sent. Help please?!

Answer 1

I feel it would not hurt to send each wedding member an invitation. This would be another reminder to them of the wedding they attended.

I do agree etiquette prevails.I have been in many wedding parties and have appreciated the keepsake of the wedding invite I received.

best wishes,

mimi

Answer 2

I would send them an invite. that way they don;t feel left out. It can't hurt anything but your wallet. Plus it's always nice to be included.

Congrats on your Big Day

Answer 3

I have to say, as a maid of honor in my best friend's wedding 3 years ago, I was VERY disappointed to NOT receive an invite in the mail. I was really looking forward to getting it, and when I didn't, that's when she informed me that "Oh yeah, I wanted to save money so I didn't send one to the bridal party." Now, keep in mind, her and I made her invites together, so for about 100 invites she was only out about $25 for paper and stuff (not including postage) so it's not like she got invites that cost her $500 or more (and even so, I *still* would have liked an invite!)

My fiance is standing up in a wedding this coming Friday (9-5-08) and I was SO excited to get that invite in the mail! (and their invites were beautiful to boot!!!!) :)

Many people like a keepsake of things like that, especially if they are taking special part in your day. I would do it.

Good luck!

Answer 4

yes you should send an invitation to every single person that you want to attend, even people in the wedding

Answer 5

You absolutely MUST send an invitation to the individuals who you've asked to stand up for you.