Sending your child to Pre-K how did you deal with letting go?

Question

Our four year old is starting pre-K & I'm a nervous wreck but Daddy hasn't broke a sweat!?

I'm not thrilled about the bus riding so for a while I'm going to transport her myself, I know she wants to ride the bus she says so

Leaving her omg I have never left my princess with anyone but her papa & nana or God parents & still I call a million times

I try to make myself thinking positive & how great this is for her ..but it doesn't work for me at least not right now...

what can I do to calm down..No rude comments they will be reported! Thanks in advance Best answer will get **10***points..

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel for the first year of my daughters life I was a stay at home mom, and then the next two years my husband stayed at home with her. She got so excited when he decided to return to work and put her in school. We went and walked through the class rooms with her, and let her see the school. She was so excited. We were happy for her because we knew she was ready.  If you put on a brave face and get excited and encourage her you might be surprised at how ready she is. if you give her the confidence she needs at home it will help the transition i promise. Kids need to be around other kids to gain confidence to deal with the world away from mom and dad. Its never to early to start, and trust that your toddler knows when they are ready to go out in the world. If she is excited about going to school and riding the bus with the other kids don't let your emotions and fears ruin her experience. If you have to cry hold it in until she goes to school or is out of sight. give her all the support she needs to prepare to fly. besides from my daughter being around grown ups all the time at this young impressionable age, she seems a little bit more mature than other kids her age. Some of the words she says are not very toddler like. (How many 3 year old can use ridiculous in a sentence that makes sense) She has picked up a lot of good and bad habits from being exposed to all adults you dont want to grow her up before her time.  Good luck mom your baby is growing up!

Answer 2

Time to let go (a little!), Mom.

First, let her ride the bus.  She will be fine.

Second ... it's absolutely normal to worry a bit, especially at first, but you absolutely MUST NOT communicate your apprehension to your daughter.  If you do, it will only cause her to be nervous and fearful.

So, what you have to do is walk her to the bus, kiss her goodbye, smile and wave as she rides away.

THEN you go back inside and cry your eyes out.  Yep, we ALL did that!

And, yes ... it is the hardest thing in the world to do!

But she will come home bubbling and giggling about all the fun she had and all her new friends, etc.  At that age, it's really still (mostly) play, so she will look forward to going every day.

Preschool, Pre-K, and even Kindergarten teachers will tell you ... it's MUCH harder on Mom than it is on the kids!

Answer 3

Believe it or not, you are more anxious than she will be.  She will be surrounded by other children, and teachers that know exactly how to comfort kids.  She will also adapt very quickly to new surroundings.  She will be nervous if you are nervous.  She will react to you.  There is a song that my mother-in-law used to sing to my daughters when I dropped them off in the morning.  It was something like "Mommy always comes back.....".  Just make a huge deal about how much fun it will be for her and how grown up she is now that she is going to a big girl school.  You will have to give yourself a week or 2 to adjust, but when she starts coming home and telling you about what she painted that day, and what story was read to her, and her friends' names.....you will see that she is totally fine, and you are indeed correct, this is wonderful for her.  Good luck from an empathetic mother.

Answer 4

first thing you need to do is realize how excited your daughter is. dont portray your nervous attitude as hers.

but anyways

start doing things that will get you both excited start doing some preschool activities at home. just look up preschool activities on google.

also when you drop her off at pre-K dont linger for a longgg time. its one big hug and a kiss and leave. the longer you wait the harder it is. if they have a two way mirror go in the room with it for a few minutes and see how she adapts.  

Answer 5

you will have to let go

i wouldnt let her ride the buss either, she is too young to do it alone, unless there are someone from the kinder garden on the buss to keep track of the kids and protect them.

however interacting with other children and people are healthy for her

Answer 6

Okay so I am taking the risk of sounding not normal but it worked for me.  I stayed out side of the school for the first day and instructed them to call my cell if anythings wrong.  I soon found out my child was fine.  The next day I called in the middle of the day to check.  I asked my child daily how the day went and asked the teacher for a daily report.  Later like the next week, I spot checked and brought in surprise cupcakes for the class just to see for myself.  Volunteer in the class room.  That helps allot! See if you can stay for part of the first day. Just keep telling yourself  that its good interaction for your child and a healthy place to learn.  Just be careful not to let your nervousness around her.  She seems to be okay with it.  If you still have a problem you can ask family to volunteer too so you are away but have a scence of security in knowing she's being cared for.  Introduce yourself to the teacher and tell them that you are willing to work with them as much as you can.  Good luck I know how it is.  I'll be praying for you.