Seperation anxiety, 15 month old, PLEASE HELP ME!!!!?

Question

Me and my son left sunday to his fathers parents house. I have sunday and monday he acted so good, he slept w/ his grandma, he was running around playing, and he would let me leave him for a little bit w/ his grandma and not freak. BUT since tuesday he has cried if anyone other than me or his dad wants to hold him, he freaks if I go to the bathroom or go outside to put a diaper in the dumpster. Yesterday I had to leave to do something and was gone for 30 minutes, he cried the WHOLE time I was gone. He checks 3 times a night if I am there in bed w/ him. I can't get him to calm down, and I moving down here and need to get a job, need to get important things done that he can't always go too. I dont know what to do to get him to adjust or whatever it is wrong w/ him. AND he isn't sick, he isn't feeling bad, no upset stomach, it's just people and me leaving and not being w/ him for every second that is been bothering him. I DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO. I am pulling my hair out here.

Answer 1

I think your right about the whole him thinking this he isn't leaving.  I have worked in daycare for many years and when a child between 12 and 18 months starts they usually would do great the first and second day and then the third day would be terrible.  It's like they think "hey this is cool new people, new toys" and then all of a sudden they think "ok this was cool for a couple of days but I want to go back home with mommy."  You just have to stick it out he will get more comfortable slowly.  Make sure you tell him good bye when you have to leave, give him a kiss, and tell him you'll be right back.  Make it short and sweet and don't keep coming back if he is crying.  If you need to go to the bathroom you can just tell him he'll be right back.  He will learn that you are coming back to get him.  he is just worried that you are leaving him there alone forever.    It will get better I promise.  It'll just take some time.

Answer 2

He is just adjusting to his new environment. It is normal and eventually he will get used to it. Don't let it upset you, if he sees that it is getting to you, the behavior will definately continue. Go do what you need to do and let him cry. you can reason with a child at this age, and even bringing back a reward may or may not work. Let him feel his own emotions, just don't give into him, and if he does the least little thing positively, reward and praise him for it, eventually he will feel comfortable.

Good luck