Sequel question to.....would you save your partner or your child......?

Question

I have always though of this, what if I had to save all three of my kids at the same time but I couldn't take all three for whatever reason.....WHAT THE HECK WOULD I DO?

I can't imagine having to choose which children to save and which one to leave, I would try to get the oldest to help me save the other two, but would she see that as me choosing the others over her? How horrid, what would you do?

Answer 1

You evalutate the situation and you save the ones that have the highest chance of survival, or the one that you can get to and get back the safest, or the ones that have no means of trying to help themselves.  Its a split second judgement call.

Its a tough situation and most families end up torn a part after.  For a family to survive something like that, it takes a lot of work and outside help...  Psychologists and support groups.

Answer 2

If you keep thinking about things like this, you are going to drive yourself crazy and/or become depressed.

Answer 3

I have imagined this terrible scenario, also.   In fact sometimes going over a bridge I'll ask my husband "If the car went over right now, how would we save all five of them?"  We usually come up with some hair brained plan to take turns carrying/swimming with them.  How awful it would be to have to do that.

Anyway, if your asking whose life  would I choose to save in a bad situation, it would definitely be my children.  I always put my husband first in my life, but obviously that doesn't mean I would let my children's needs (and safety) be forsaken.  I would be a terrible parent to let them drown purposefully and besides, my husband would WANT me to save the lives of our children.

In this scenario, I would probably die trying to save them all.

Answer 4

As a father I would die trying to save all of them. Even running through fire. I would go for which ever child was most accessible. and like i said if i had to die to save the last one i would.

Answer 5

Hmmm....I think that's another good argument for why we're only having 1 child =P  I wouldn't be able to choose either.

Answer 6

I can't think about things like that, even though I only have 1 child (so far)  your going to make yourself crazy.

Answer 7

I don't know & wouldn't know until I was in the situation & could assess everyone's chances of survival on their own.  

Would it be possible to save them, but not myself?  

Is it a situation where we could all help each other?  

I'm sure my stepdaughter would help with the little kids, if she could & understand.  I'm sure that you've taught your oldest about responsibility & helping others, too.

Answer 8

In that sort of situation you wouldn't have time to think you would just act.  And the result of your actions would not mean that you favored any child over the other.  It's just gut instinct.  Don't agonize over it!

Answer 9

I think it would be more logical and therefore more useful to save the closest first.  Save the ones that have the most chance of surviving, otherwise you may get to the one with the least chance and lose the others in the process.

Answer 10

i would put the kid and hubby outside< if its a fire> and i would die myself.

Answer 11

I too have thought of this and my husband and I discussed it seriously.  We both agree that because we have had a chance to live and grow up that we would want the other to save our children.  We only have two children, so it would be one in each arm (say if it's a fire or something to that effect).  Or if I were pregnant and it was either me or the baby, both my husband and I decided that we would want to save the baby because I have had a chance at life and I know my children would be in good hands with him.

I could never choose between my children.  It would be horrible.  That's like a criminal making me decide which child they will kill first.....I can't do it.  I'd rather die myself to save them both.  I would hope my children would try to save each other.  Hard question.  I hope no one has to experience that kind of situation.

Answer 12

I'd save the kids and die myself. I'd just move as fast as I could.

Answer 13

It is horrible to think about but situations like this do happen. There is no if ands or buts both of my children would be saved. I will die trying! If  for whatever reason I couldn't save either of my children then I will die with them. I wouldn't be able to go on without them.

Answer 14

Obviously everyone would save their children first, starting with who ever is farthest, for instance in a fire, because if you don't get to the farthest first it might be to late.

Answer 15

Gosh, that's such a horrible thing to imagine. I don't know what I'd do. Hopefully no one is ever put in that situation.