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Question

My man and I have been together for 4 years.

I have yet to get pregnant..

The last couple months I have been looking into vitamins ovulation tests etc.

Yesterday the first time I took my test it said I was ovulating.

So I told my man, meaning we need to have s*x sometime today,tomorrow, and the next

this is something that is important to me.

But it seemed like all day I was begging him to have s*x with me

something else always seemed to come up

something was more important.

i had to be to work at 9am this morning

I stayed up until 4am waiting for him to come to bed

what the h**l to think?

what to do?

Answer 1

Sounds like he either doesn't want one, or is feeling way too pressured.  You need to sit down and have a conversation about this.  Find out if yes, he wants children (or another one), or no he doesn't.  

You may have just freaked him out with the tests and stuff.  Or, you may need to face the reality that he doesn't want children.

Answer 2

hes feeling pressured.  Trying too hard can actually mess up ovulation.  Just let it happen.  Try not saying, "come on we have to do it now"  Put on some lingerie, watch a video, what ever you do to get him in the mood

Answer 3

well next time you are ovulating lol don't tell him just make it look like you cant get enough of him for your 3 days.

hey a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do. good luck

Answer 4

For the child . . . it should be a MUTUAL thing not just you. That is VERY SELFISH. I pity your poor child. You don't deserve a child with your attitude. I hope you never get pregnant, not to be mean, but to be nice to the would be child and your BF/hubby.

Answer 5

Sounds to me like he really doesn't want to have a child. How many guys that i know who they were asked to go to bed, with their women and refused. I could count them on 1 finger.

Answer 6

I think he's not interested in having children, but doesn't want to tell you.

Answer 7

d**n... I agree with Kathy maybe he just doesn't want to have a child yet , he's just not ready.

But my mentality i would think he's  bangin someone else.

* my feelings would be so hurt *

Answer 8

Apparently he doesn't want a child if he wont have s*x with you when you are ovulating and he knows it.

Answer 9

maybe he is not ready for a baby yet

Answer 10

maybe he doesnt want a child?.........who knows guys are wierd

Answer 11

He might not want a child or he feels TOO pressured from you to preform. Give him a break. He'll come around when he is ready too.

Answer 12

I think your making it look like a chore . I know allot of woman think our thing stands up on demand but that is just a myth . We don,t perform well under pressure .  

Answer 13

I noticed you said your man and not your husband. Maybe hes not the type that wants to commit 100% and having a baby will be a huge commitment. Are you sure this is the right guy to have a child with?

Answer 14

sounds like he doesn't want a little baby. sorry

Answer 15

It sounds like you're the one that's all big into the baby making, so much so that he asks you what you're going to name it, like he has no suggestions on the name of his own child. You guys have been together for four years, I mean...are there any plans for marriage or are you just rushing to have a baby because you feel your clock is ticking? Slow down with it all, take your time. If it's meant to happen, then just let it happen. I'm not sure how old you are, but once you have a child there is no turning back. Maybe he is just enjoying your lives together and you haven't even given him the chance to propose to you and really make that commitment to you. Have you spoken to him about his feelings on having a child, if he wants one now? And all the talk about ovulating isn't a turn on to me, I wouldn't be eager to jump into bed just because you say "Quick, I'm ovulating!".  That's not romantic whatsoever.

Talk to him about his feelings on the matter and decide what you should do because you don't want to bring a child into the world when one parent isn't sure he even wants one. It should be a decision you're both happy about making, not just you, so make sure he feels the same way about it that you do or else he's just going to keep hiding from you because he feels like you're forcing this on him and that's not how a child should be brought into this world.

Good luck.

Answer 16

U keep saying me, me , me....what about him??

He will say what u want to hear to make u happy.

sit down and talk to him dont assume he's ready.

Answer 17

  well your further along in your 4 year than i'd ever imagine..... that's my life. but, if you both are on the same page then he should not be acting that way-make sure he wants kids too. then make sure you didn't scare him off and your the only one in the picture

Answer 18

Maybe he doen't want to have kids or isn't ready yet.  Remeber once you have kids it last forever.  Have fun now while your without kids. They are wonderfule but you never stop wprrying about them.

Answer 19

I think it sounds like maybe he's having second thoughts or maybe he's scared.  You should come right out and ask him because having a baby is a huge decision and I know it's affected my husband and I. We love each other very much but our love-life has taken a huge hit.  There is a definate reason he avoided comming to be especially when you came right out and told him the motive.  On the fertility note, I had problems concieving too but I went to my doctor and he put me on progestrone and I got pregnant right away.  I had to do it w/all four of our babies.  Good Luck to you and I hope you get your answers.