Serious Behavior problems with my siblings against my grandparents.?

Question

My mother has 6 children in all and only 1 lives with her now...the youngest. Well my younger sister and second youngest brother live with my grandparents and have for a long time. Over time i realized that they are both getting worse in the way they treat my grandparents, they are very mouthy, greedy, they steal from them (mind they are 12 & 5) My sister being the 12 year old, starts fights with my brother and they cause so many worries and problems at school for my grandparents...whom i love so much. They are the most giving ppl i know. I live with my fiance and our son im only 19 and we dont have the income to take the kids to our own custody. Does anyone have advice as to how to get these kids to realize they have it d**n good where they are. My mother is a drug addict and alcholic so no going to her...when i was younger she was a horrible mother to me and i dont want that for them.

Answer 1

Maybe they're not getting enough attention.I think you guys need to go to a family counsellor, because if you have no income, alcoholics and a drug addiction in your family, they're not going to turn out like perfect kids.And, remember they're siblings, their going to fight.

Answer 2

Unfortunelty...these kids probably wont realize it until it's too late........As a young kid, you just dont get it, until it is too late, however, you being the older one, might be able to put some sense into them??....  ..........Personally, I think you should take over responsibility for one of the children....probably the younger one........You could try and get some sort of financial support from the city.....My mother died when I was 6 months old, and my 19 year old raised me most of my life....and I am eternally grateful......You said you had 6 siblings, isn't there another that could take the 12 year old???  Your grandparent, need to enjoy the last years of their lives....It's a sad situation, with your mom....but how lucky you are to have these wonderful grandparents, show them your gratitude and take over responsibily..........

Answer 3

It sounds like your grandparents are being grandparents and not being parents -- i.e., there's a lack of discipline.  Usually, all it takes is ONE sure and certain consequence for mouthing off to stop that kind of behavior -- grounding for a week, no TV, computer, etc.

Their disrespect cannot be tolerated.  You might want to talk to your grandparents and see how they feel about it, and discuss ways you can help.  For example, while you can't take them into your own custody, you might be able to at least take one or the other for a weekend to give your g-parents a break. They might be able to come to your house to do their homework under your supervision, or you might start going to parent-teacher conferences to  get a handle on what is going on at school.

Otherwise, it may be time, especially with the 12 year old, to sit down and explain the facts of life to him:  "This is the last stop before foster care, kiddo.  Your mom can't care for you, I can't care for you, and if you s***w up and make it seem like your grandparents can't handle you, then the only thing left is foster care or a group home."  

You might want to suggest that the 12 year old start getting involved in some other activities, such as Boy Scouts, church, sports, etc -- something that will use up some of that energy and channel it into a positive growing experience.

You sound like a good sister, for being so worried about them.  Good luck with your baby.

Answer 4

Take your siblings out for a day, talk to them, tell them that they need to stop all that because if they continue you are going to have to send them back to their mom where they have it BAD with her and tell them that you are sure they dont want that because its not good for them..

tell them their grandparents love them so much adn for them to be acting that way toward them that they should be ashamed of themselves.... Tell them that your grandparents dont have to raise them but they are being nice enough too and that your grandparents are getting old and they can only take so much....

Good Luck and God Bless..

Answer 5

you need to speak with your grandparents first. theres some major lack of discipline going on here.