Sorry if this might get a little long. Well, the family life that I had growing up was miserable, and very depressing. The main source of it was my mother, and my parents fighting all the time. My mom slept on the couch for the last 15 years, and my parents went years without talking to each other, even though they were still married and lived together! I love my mother very much, but I hate to say that she wasn't a very good mom. She is the laziest person I have ever met in my life! We were lucky if we got fed 1 meal a day, and that was dinner, for breakfast and lunch we would have to search the kitchen for anything that might be in there, and usually there wasn't anything, so I had to get pretty creative with putting things together to eat. The house was always a wreck, and I can admit that I didn't help out much at all, but if you did do something, it wasn't good enough, so you always got negativity and never any positive feedback. If it wasn't for my father, I don't know what we would have done. But he was at work all the time, and my mother might as well have not even been there, so my siblings and I pretty much raised ourselves. She is also a very angry person, screaming over dumb stuff all the time, and she didn't beat us, but her capital punishments were over the top, and done out of anger. We acted out in bad ways, which I am ashamed of to this day as an adult. The only love I felt growing up came from my father, and from my other siblings. I can recall only a few times my mom telling me that she loved me, and it was probably because I did something bad. Well, fast forward to the present, and now her and my father parted ways, although they live not far from each other. My mom now has custody of my 4 nieces and nephews, why, that's a different story, but what they're going through is 10 times worse than what we did. Their house isn't a wreck anymore, it is UNLIVEABLE, my mom gets a ton of money from the government to take care of them, which is blown on dumb stuff, they are not being raised properly at all. The kids might as well be living on their own, they would get about the same amount of parental guidance and care. She never has any money to feed them properly, or any money for anything else, yet she will have brand new furniture sitting in her house. My dad ends up giving her money all the time, and they are split up! She only works 2 days a week, she won't work full time, and even if she did she would just find ways to blow the extra money. What do I do? I get onto my mom all the time for what she spends, but she justs gets mad and defensive. I feel so sorry for these kids, if my brother-in law (their father) could see them from heaven, he'd be turning in his grave. I don't want them to have the same emotional issues that me and my siblings have had to deal with because of this, but if I involve cps, they have nowwhere else to go but to foster care, and my mother and her side of the family would probably never speak to me again. I would take all of them myself, me and my husband have our own house, and a son of our own, I am a stay at home mom, but I'm sure that a judge wouldn't give them to me because me and my husband are still quite young (23). The financial part wouldn't be a burden, my mother gets more than enough money from the government for them kids to have every thing they need and so much more. On top of that, I feel that it wouldn't be fair to my husband and my son, but whatever would be in the best interest of those kids, then I will do. I hate the idea of calling cps, they have failed us in the past before when I was a kid. And trust me, it will take an act of God for my mother to change. Any advice will be appreciated, and please keep those kids in your prayers, thanks!
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