Serious answers needed: Is this a form of erectile dysfunction??

Question

I have a boyfriend and we are somewhat new at having s*x (with each other that is). We've only had it 3 times so far. The thing is, he is never hard when we are getting frisky....not even right before we are about to have s*x. I have to do something for him first, or he has to touch himself. But its like he has to stroke it for a bit before it gets hard enough to even put a condom on.....what is up with that? He's only 35 years old and has never mentioned any weird medical condition to me??? Then during s*x he'll lose his erection. Trying not to take it personal here.....I feel that I always look my best and smell nice and have great hygiene (down there for sure)....but I'm wondering what is wrong or if it is completely normal for some men?? When we are getting intimate he seems very into it and aroused....everything else about his demeanor is normal, except for this.

Answer 1

That is definitely a problem and sounds to me like it might be a low testosterone problem. A simple blood test will tell. It could also be a mental problem since you stated the two of you were new at this but if he has always had this problem I'd go with the blood test first. Men today are having low testosterone problems for some unknown reason at earlier ages and that will definitely cause libido and erection problems.

Answer 2

He needs to see his doctor first to rule out any underlying medical conditions (i.e. diabetes).  Then you need to talk to him very openly.  My guess is that he has an addiction to pornography.  He can only be turned on by images.  If that is what it is, please e-mail me and I will try and help you and him overcome this problem.

Answer 3

get him to a doctor(suggest it) he might have high blood pressure which affects the erection, he might have heart disease also affects the p***s, he might have low testosterone which affect the p***s, he should be tested to see if his veins are okay if he is healthy enough the doctor might prescribe Viagra or something like it to help him get a stronger erection. see a doctor.

Answer 4

maybe he cant get enough blood down there