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Question

Hello, well this question is going to be a little uncomfortable to ask but I really don't know what to do. My little brother(am his legal guardian) Ryan,12, had to had a surgery done on his "privates" area. The doctors told me that I should look at it at least once in two days to make sure that everything is ok. However, he gets really angry and uncooperative when these times come. I've only been able to see it once(missed the check twice). He says that it is fine and I don't need to look at it.(Said that before he had to get the surgery done, meaning don't trust that)

I've explained to him that I'm just helping him, and I'm not gonna hurt him or do anything else. I can't get through to him. Someone please help me!!!

How can I make him feel comfortable, what can I say?

Answer 1

tell him if you don't you will have to take him in to the Doctor every day and have the Doctor examine him.

goodluck:]

Answer 2

well start by telling him s/s of infection-redness, swelling, drainage, pain. tell him it has to be examined. if he feels uncomfortable then you should repect that, just let him know he will have to go to the doctor more often. you could try to get creative- have him take a picture, have a pissing contest, go to a pubic pool where you both have to shower after in a open shower. but if it is making him feel wierd just tell him what to look for and to let you know if there is a problem. even if he did not tell you before, now that a problem has been identified a effort has been made to be fixed, he is more likely to tell you. tell him you don't want him to have to have surgury again ( im sure he does not want that eighter) and if you catch it early he will only need antibiotics so to tell you right away and just make a follow up appointment sooner. good luck.  

Answer 3

I think he's shy because he is at the adolescent period.just confront him is there something wrong if u see it.  

Answer 4

hey, i don't have a younger brother but try saying that you need to check it or it could be infected, he won't be able to see what it would be like infected. If he says no, try saying well i will have to take you to the doctor every two days, waiting in the waiting room for around an hour each time because there all booked out and it could be longer(the old it will be very very boring but you have to do it talk)

hope this helps.

cya

Answer 5

Wow, that's a tuffy. Is he a sound sleeper? Maybe you could check on him at night with a flashlight?

I agree hes 12, that's the OMG don't look stage.

I also agree with show me your I'll show you mine.

But, that also depends on how close you are. I had 2 brothers. We could walk around naked and it was no big deal to us. We were just that comfortable with each other.

But talk with him in a soft voice, It's just something that needs to get done. That or head back to the doctors office.

I had Leukemia when I was 5 1/2. I had a full check up every week.

Which included looking at my privets. I was scared, but my Mom assured me that is was ok. And the less I fought, the sooner it all would be over. LOL...it took 13 years to be over. But, I just let them do what they needed to do.

Answer 6

I don't think there's anything you can do to make him feel comfortable about it. Maybe just explain to him that this is what needs to be done and give him a little scare like you don't want it falling off do you? Idk...

Answer 7

Tell him I'll let you see mines if you let me see yours lol jk thats creepy

explain to him the seriousness of the situation

Answer 8

Hi Class of 03

Sounds like you have a very difficult situation to deal with. Seems to me first objective is to gain his trust.Without that you have a hopeless task on your hands. Explain why you need to make this examination (in detail) Seems it isn't enough for him that you just say you are trying to help.

If you do this & he is still reluctant then I think you need to refer it to a professional. All the best.

Answer 9

Just let him know that you have to check to make sure everything is doing well. Talk sweetly to him and don't be loud and demanding of him. He's only twelve. Tell him things to reassure him such as, "I don't want to look at it anymore than you want me to." I'm sure he'll appreciate something like that, knowing you're not trying to be gross or hurt him. If that doesn't work tell him that well, he's gonna have to go back to the doctor's and have them look at it. Then ask him, who would you rather have look? Your big brother? Or a creepy doctor? Hope all goes well =)

Answer 10

Well. I have a solution that might help him feel somewhat more comfortable, but it might feel uncomfortable for you. Tell him that you need to check it to see if anything is wrong with it. And let him see yours. If he sees that you are comfortable enough to let him see yours and how healthy yours is, then he might let you see his.

Answer 11

what yo need to do is sit him down and tell him if he doesnt let u check nd there there is something wrong or he has a infection and he doesnt notice there is a possibility he will have to take the operation again

Answer 12

I like nurse tanya's idea about taking a picture. He might not feel so embarrassed if you just saw a picture of it instead of actually looking at it. He could take a few pictures from different angles and you could look at them in the other room without him even being there.

Otherwise you might have to take him back to the doctor and have the doctor be very forceful with him that he has to let you check it or he could have a serious problem.