Serious emotional help needed? feeling betrayed by friends and a negative self realization stuck me at once??

Question

hi,

My name is vijay and iam 22 years old. iam writing this becuase i feel iam victimised by the system of boys only school where i spent 10 years of my life early on. Even during college which lasted four years me and one of my close friends were very effective in forming our own clique full of guys without any girls in it. To be honest i did not feel the need to have a girlfriend until recently. But then, while i was chatting with my neighborhood friends whom i had known for 17 years the concept of having girlfriends came up. one by one they narrated their story (some had had numerous girls) and then they turned to me. clearly, they knew i had none up until that point. the words in the from of insults which came out of their mouth for the next 10 minutes made me question 17 years of friendship. instead of helping me sort things out they were being s****t about my situation. while i was back home that night more than being mad at my friends the realization that i do not have a girlfriend like they did struck me. two months have passed and i still can't stop thinking about it. should i be strong not to think about having girls like before or should i start trying to have one? Iam confused please help.

Answer 1

you do whatever you want, however. seriously, you didn't talk $#!t back to them and "there perfect lives", pssh. with friends like that who need enemies.

nothing wrong with get friends who are girls, you'll get to know em, and if you hit it off with them than it could grow into something special. At least by then you know what you want in a girl, not going around and "tossing it into anything that moves"

Don't feel like you have to do what you think what your "crew" should think that you should do, let alone anyone else. If your crew wanted to turn over a corner store would you follow?

can't hurt to try dating, wont do any harm taking your time either.

Also with love will come heartache so be warned.

Answer 2

Doesn't sound like they are truly friends if they made you the butt of the joke and went on and on doing and saying things that weren't supportive of you. You are an honest and true man. Something to feel proud about. You do not need to look for a girlfriend, nor do you need to avoid the idea. Just go on with your daily life and enjoy what you're doing, be friendly and speak to others, Wear a smile and above all-be true to yourself. Forget about the whole miserable incident. Not having a girl means nothing and we all find out at some point that our friends were merely acquaintences all along. That's alright, too. We need acquaintences as well as friends. Just don't be so open and chummy with them and save the real talk for a true friend. You are perfectly fine. Love will find you. I promise. Be ready for it without pushing it. Love is in the air! :)  

Answer 3

beat the **** out of um

Answer 4

the feeling of negative self is  only because of the personal attack made you feel inadequate but don't fret believe me true friends in life are hard to come by anyway and you won't carry all that many for your entire life at least not the same ones from now to 60 beside you have to get on with your studies and business you'll develop a social life that is different from now anyway so buck up the best revenge in your case should be success. with you education and back ground and social milieu you'll be ok i know it sounds like happy talk but take it from someone old enough to be you dad you really be fine now get out there be your self and you'll meet a girl and get own with it keep pouting and they win  

Answer 5

So you want to an all-boy public school. So what? What is the big deal. (You're in UK, I assume?)  Half the country do that.

Some people do not feel that they need to have a companionship who is an opposite gender until later. You will be ready when you are ready. There is no set date.

About the bloke next door, you should have told him to get stuffed and never speak to him again.

Answer 6

you may not be good with hirls, but the time will come where you have a chance, as for your friends, you should really consider if they are your friends.