Serious marriage and dating question.

Question

I'm not married and I don't have a boyfriend.What if you husband askes you did you marry him to make your ex jealous?this is your answer.

"No.Of course my mind is going to play tricks on me and it is going to even try to tell me and convince me and say that that's why I married you but my heart tells me different.I know that my mind is lying and that my heart is telling me the truth.My heart tells me all of the reasons why I love you.Even if it was a reason it wouldn't be the only reason but it's not even a reason and my heart tells me that."

Would he divorce you if you said that,would he be hurt or something? and what if you boyfriend asked you the same question and you gave him the same answer?Would he not want to marry you or would he be hurt or mad or something.

Answer 1

Marriage is not a simple decision that you will be into new path of life.  You will be joined together and have a family of your own.  Why don't you think hundred times before marring somebody that you your self has doubts in your mind. Even husband or boyfriend and you answer him that way I don't think that you relationship will not suffer. Just an opinion.

Answer 2

Frankly, if you can't trust your own mind, there's no reason he should.  If you have any doubt in your mind or heart or soul about commiting to someone, or your motives for doing so, then you need to address that BEFORE you commit.

You don't erase your history when you get married.  The boys you dated and the men you loved are always a part of you.  They are a part of your past, and your husband is your present and future.  That's totally normal.

What's not normal or healthy is if you are still obsessing about your exes, or letting their opinions influence your current actions.  If you get married or get a boyfriend just to make someone else jealous, no matter what other motives you may have, then that's not healthy and the relationship will eventually suffer.  

You need to know your own mind - look at everyone in it, and everyone's influence, and figure out who is really in control.