Serious one. Would you tell a friend their child is having underage s*x?

Question

I found of my friends daughter who is 14 has slept with a 20 year old guy.

I don't like interfering with peoples business but I feel this is such a wrong thing that is happening. She is so young and it's so illegal.

How would you tell the mum if you did? or should I stay out of it?

Answer 1

tell her mom and call the police. that guy is a f*cking pedophile

Answer 2

I would stay out of it, yes its illegal but most girls these days are more wise than a boy anyway, and your daughter will not be happy and it might break there friendship up and you will be hated from both of them....

Sorry i had this done to me when i was young now me and my mum have never got on since  

Answer 3

just tell the mother that you heard that there might be something goin on between the two.  especially since she is way under age.  he is taking advantage of her big time!  

Answer 4

The 14 year old came to you with trust, i wouldn't throw that back in her face. Just make sure she is careful with what she is doing and make sure she is protected. For the mother, bring the subject into conversation and say whether she would be open to getting protection for her daughter just to be safe than sorry.

Being young myself, we go to older people in search of help. She needs you, don't abuse this.

Answer 5

Yes, because she is 14 and he is 20... that is criminal behavior on his part.  

Answer 6

You should definitely tell the mother so it doesn't happen until she is older!

Answer 7

OMFG

Seriously, my sister is 14 and is shaggin a 18 yearold, even worse my best friend. I told my mum about 4 days ago, she went nuts. My mum did need to know, plus i was drunk as a skunk at the time, so dont think i was trying to be horrible. Just letting my mum know what is happining

Answer 8

I would definitely tell the mother.

However, just understand, they sometimes shoot the messenger.  

Answer 9

I think you should stay out of this. This could get you in trouble with the mum, your daughter in trouble with your friend. It's not worth it. Did your daughter tell you this? If she did then I would stay out of it. If you found out some other way maybe you could say something without your daughter getting involved. It isn't fair to risk their friendship.

edit: maybe hint there something going on there.. without directly saying. say you have heard something. do it subtely. you know.

Answer 10

i wouldnt have told... but the age difference would indeed make me tell. thats a VERY big gap at that age...

maybe say you heard it as a rumour... then your friend could bring it up with her daughter and find the truth out for herself...  

Answer 11

tell her because firstly its totally disgusting and wrong,and two because if her mom finds out about it,then finds out that you knew and did nothing then it dont look like you got a friend no more.gd luck  

Answer 12

Do it now!

Answer 13

tell her mum immediately and the police!!!!!!

if the girl asks where her mum found out say it wasnt you and someone she saw in the street or somewhere mentioned it.

Answer 14

deffinetly tell, she could get herself inton some serious problems and if no one knows how would she ask for help if she was ashamed or scared? she could get an STD or be being emotionally taken advantage of. She is underage and he is a pervert for doing that her being so young. He is obviously taking advantage of her. Tell her mother immediatly. It is a matter of safety so it is appropriate!

and for god's sake what if she gets pregnant. she should not be doing that at 14!

Answer 15

Tell her parents.The girl will accuse you of breaching her trust,but explain that had anything untoward happened,you would not be able to live with yourself knowing you could have prevented it.And if the mother's reaction is one of accusing you of lying,then that is a risk you need to take,as she will soon find out the truth when her daughter comes home pregnant.

Answer 16

defiantly i know i have had s*x before and i am only 14 and in all dew respect if i found out later on in life that my child had s*x at the same as me and then one of my friends knew and i found out that they knew i would be furious and give them  good beating but the point is what is the MORAL thing to do ? i think it is to tell the friend about their child's unacceptable behaviour

Answer 17

stay out of it

its not cool or helpful to do that

if you find out then tlk to the girl

btw how did u find out?

being nosy i assume

Answer 18

Tell her parents.  That is a serious matter not only from a legal standpoint but also for the girl's emotional and physical well being.  Your friend may be shocked and have a negative reaction at first but if she is a good mother she will do something to correct and resolve the matter.  Speak up.

Answer 19

do you really want to drive a stake between you and your friend and between your friend and her daughter.

Answer 20

DON'T tell the mum about that, but ask if she knows her daughter is seeing a 20yr old bloke.  If she KNOWS, it's up to HER to sort things out.  If she DIDN'T know, then by you telling her, she will be able to keep an eye on the situation.    

Answer 21

I would tell the girl's parents. The 20 year old is taking advantage of the girl.