Serious question about possible work mate, may be transvestite?

Question

i recently did some work on my work mates computer and found transvestite p**n, ok not too much of a drama perhaps he was curious, then to confirm my suspicion's, another work colleague looked on the history of his computer to find an array of trans-fetish web-sites and search for local g*y bars. he's also told me and others about times he's gone out "fancy dress" as a woman /school girl, and convinced other guys to buy him drinks. now i have to go away with him for 6 months with work, hes a very brash and arrogant character. do you think i should confront him about it or let sleeping dogs lie.

Answer 1

It's absolutely none of your business.

Answer 2

What the guy does is his business. Why are you and your mates snooping through his pc?

Answer 3

You want to confront him about matters of personal choice of how he spends his leisure time?  That's ridiculous.

You spend your leisure time how you like and he spends his leisure time how he likes.  From the sounds of it, there are no problems with his work life.  There is nothing you have any right confronting him about.

If you feel uncomfortable spending six months with him, ask your manager to reconsider the assignment.  If he feels that there are no changes to make and you still don't want to go away with him, ask for your P45 and look for another job.

You cannot make innocent other people (even if they are part of a minority group) a scapegoat for your own insecurity.  Once you are confident with yourself and accepting with yourself, you will not feel so jealous of people who are secure with themselves.

Nick

:)

Answer 4

go and buy him some heels and see how he reacts ;) lol

Answer 5

Live and let live,

Answer 6

I really don't see a reason to confront him about it. If he wanted you guys to know, he would have said something.

As long as he doesn't do anything you aren't comfortable with, leave it be. :)

Answer 7

Why not, confront him?

Answer 8

You and another co-worker go snooping through this person's things to peek into the person's private life, and then even CONSIDER confronting the person? Wow..you have some balls.  I hate to tell you, but YOU are the one in the wrong.  You can't blame someone else, or justify this because of your own insecurity. Go ahead, and do that..let me know how that works out for ya.  Cuz I know if you did that to me, I'd fix you to where you couldn't see much of anything else for awhile.

Answer 9

Confront him about what? Being a transvestite? It's not illegal.

Answer 10

why would it matter if he was or not... it shouldnt really care...

Answer 11

Leave it alone.

Answer 12

leave well alone, what he does is his own business and no one else's, if he was a paedophile with thousands of images of child p**n then yes, but he is an adult and doesn't need your input

Answer 13

What he does in his private time is not your business and has no impact on you.  Looking at p**n on his work PC however is not OK and you should do something about that - its irrelevant what kind of p**n it is.  Going away with him for six months should not be a problem - you donothave to make him your friend.

Answer 14

Confront him about being brash and arrogant.

Not sure what him being a possible transvestite would have to do with that.

Answer 15

if u want sum drama then confront him

but if u dont then do not confront

that's all bad lol

Answer 16

advise him that some iffy web-sites tend to get attacked with e-virus that gets transferred to the viewers computers.  

Tell him you had to clean up his archive, and appologize for deleting any passwords that he might have had, becuase you really had to dig into the system, viewing a lot of history to clean it out.