Serious relationships?

Question

well... what I really want to know is how do they evolve from the just friends to like madly in love. I always see happy couples in their late teens to early 20s.. they seem so happy.. but when i ask them what its like to be in a serious relationship.. I get the "stay single for as long as you can" or " Its not all its cracked up to be." I am 18 turning 19 in a few days.. and I've recently started talk to a great guy.. but I'm afraid i might push him away or we might not even make it to the dating stage. I've never been in a "serious relationship"... so i have no experience whatsoever ... please help

thanks =)

Answer 1

it will find you. i know this isn't a very helpful answer but it's true. don't go looking for love, let it find you. if you look for it chances are you'll never find it. don't go into every relationship expecting it to be serious or else you'll miss out on an important part of the relationship

hope this helps, good luck.

Answer 2

The thing is, relationships are hard. They do take work. The way to have a great relationship is to have both people be honest about their needs and wants.Communication is very important, even when it's not about something positive. Your relationship will be whatever you and your partner make it. If you both choose to value, cherish and respect each other and take care of each other so that you're happy, you'll be happy. If not, you won't. But, it's important to have staying power. To be in it to win it. To realize that relationships are NOT what you see in the movies. Real life is a lot more complicated.

Answer 3

You need to find couples that are less cynical or more willing to talk (the cynical reply is an easy way to cut off the conversation).

At 19 and up it's most important to share values, though shared interests greases the skids socially. It also helps to be looking for friends and see if they turn into soulmates instead of the other way around. Worrying about what kind of serious relationship you might have with someone you barely know is counterproductive.

The process of just friends to madly in love is very difficult to generalize. Good romance novels are good case studies. If you can get past the 19th century conventions, Jane Austen captures it superbly.

Answer 4

my boyfriend and I have been together for two and a half years, and I've never said anything like that to anyone before. I take it that they were being sarcastic or maybe joking. I had never had a real boyfriend until I met Dane, my boyfriend. Then it just happened month after month. You go through a lot of obstacles together. But the best advice I can give you is to just take it step by step and go with the flow. Try not to worry too much about the future. Once you have been together for a while then it's fine to discuss a future together.

And the people who said that might not be too happy in their relationships. If you stay single, you stay single. If not then you don't. Just be with someone who makes you happy and just enjoy being with them and making them happy as well and it can just go from there.