Serious sexual question....?

Question

ok. i had our son via emergency c-section on fathers day, june 15. b4 that, towards the end of my pregnancy, we didnt do all that much intercourse. maybe once every couple days & there was that one time,it was once a week or once every couple weeks. after he was born, i was cleared by my doc, after 6 weeks, we could do "something." but i then told her i wanted b/c, the implanon, that went in my arm. well, she said after it was inserted, we could not do "anything" for up to 10 days, and we didnt. so after baby was born, we didnt do anything for about approx. 8 weeks or so total. now, whenever we try to do "something" it feels good at first, but then it starts stinging, like burning on me on the inside?. ive never had any aids, stds, or anything, and my hubby was my first and hes never had anything either.. i dont remember it hurting this bad after our now-4 year old daughter was born? could something be wrong? we are in a stable relationship, but i am honestly worried he may start "looking" if i cant please him, even though he says there is noone out there for him but me.it just hurts so bad, that we have to stop almost from the beginning. plz help. i appreciate any decent comments. thank you.

we try to use ky every time but it doesnt seem to work?

Answer 1

I think the best you can do is make sure you're in the mood and "ready" and use lubricant with lubricated condoms.. Just make sure you start off really slow.  

Answer 2

It is normal to be dryer after having a baby. Try some lube and you should notice a BIG difference

Answer 3

Yes, I would switch lubricants, and if you're using condoms, switch those too.  Sounds like that's what causing it.  Or, you may need to re-apply it during s*x too, dryness is a major problem after babies.

Answer 4

My hes has a std

Answer 5

If you are breastfeeding that can also contribute to dryness and discomfort, because of hormone levels. Other than that I dunno, but I'm sure that your husband loves you enough to understand that you hurt and you shouldn't have to worry about him straying.  You should also check if it is a possible side effect of the impanon.

Answer 6

It can take a while to get back into things.  Having a baby is very traumatic on your system and it has to adjust back to things, including intercourse.  It can take days to weeks to months, depending on the woman.  

It will help if you are more relaxed, as in not bracing yourself for the the possible uncomfortableness.  

If he takes things slowly and you are actually ready for him, as in aroused it shouldn't be painful.  

If you're really not in the mood and are just doing it to please him, you will most likely feel uncomfortable and no amount of lubricant will help.  It's not just a physical thing, it's a mental one as well.

If this is seriously hindering your relationship, you need to speak to a doctor. perhaps they will have something that will help with your s*x drive.  Believe it or not, women's s*x drive sometimes don't return without the aid of medicine.

Good luck, I am sorry I have no other advice.

Answer 7

try a different brand of lube, i also burned but my hubby got a new brand and it helped. also, make sure you are fully turned on because it tends to "dry up" faster if you are not. relax, your husband wont stray...if all else fails there are other "oral" things you can do for him :)

Answer 8

You don't have to listen to me, i might be wrong, but when me and my husband have s*x, the KY mine and yours burns when it's inside me, and the plain still does it, I haven't had a kid but i would suggest maybe using something else other than KY and see if that helps. It might just be the KY

Answer 9

If you are breastfeeding it could be hormones in which case I think its an estrogen cream that helps (I will double check)

It could also be a yeast infection particularly from antibiotics.