Seriously going to snap?

Question

ok i have asked this question idk how many times....but i seriously need hlep i think im going to crack pretty soon...i am a stateward child im trying to go live with my aunt in chi_town...they are taking their time like i want to stay here all my life..i am wasteing time and im not happy..i seriously thought about suicide..i have to do what that state tells me and its so d**n annoyon cuz they dont give a d**n about me...and its hurtn so bad inside...they keep saying i have to wait for the home inspection,...which could take up to months to happn..plz help me anyone went threw this no what im talking about...can she get temeray custody of me...plz help me

Answer 1

gosh where are you i am near san antonio. i know the system is very slow. just hang in their do you talk to your aunt. ask her to hurry for you. where is she and do you walk often. yes i know the state is miserable and they are horrible about being fast. i was a federal worker so its hard to relate cause we worked hard and fast . let me know you are ok don't but yourself gone fo this they will get you take care ([e-mail] )

Answer 2

Suicide is not the answer.  If you are seriously thinking about suicide find some one to talk to or call the national suicide hotline, 1-800-273-TALK.

What I am about to say is not legal advice but just my opinion.  In regards to being placed with your relative in TX, if you have an attorney (some children in foster care are appointed attorneys), then I would contact your attorney and have her request a hearing regarding placement.  If you do not have an attorney, I would write a letter to the judge and send a copy to yor worker.

In order to place children in another state, state agencies have to follow what is called the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children (ICPC).  The average length for the process ranges from 6 weeks to 3 months.  In some instances, however, the court can order an expedited home study.  This is something that you should discuss with your attorney or at your hearing with your judge in order to see if you qualify.  Recently, there has been a push to get children in foster care to permanence quicker.  Some states have adopted or in the process of adopting a new law which revises the ICPC in order to cut down on the time it takes to get one state to either approve or disapprove of the other's state's request.  If it has been too long, you can explain to a judge that it is unreasonable for you to have to wait so long to be placed with a relative.

You are your best advocate.  Be proactive.  Call your worker every day or every other day to see what the status of the home study is.  Also, tell your relative to contact your worker and her local agency to see what can be done.  Let the old saying goes, a squeaky wheel gets the oil.

Do not give up hope.

Answer 3

I have an ex from high school that went through the same-he was taken from his mom at a young age and actually grew up believing she was dead because thats what they told him. She had tried for years to find him but they would, of course, never help her. He was almost 15 when she finally did. They were both so hurt that the state would lie to him like that. He desperately wanted to go home and there was no reason anymore why he couldn't but they just drug their feet like always so he finally took matters into his own hands. by all means, im not saying to do this cuz it probably wont work, but he purposely got in trouble, had to go to court, and when he went before the judge and had to explain himself he just poured his heart out about how much he hated it in foster care and how he would do anything to go home. he was still punished with probation for what he did, but the judge actually told cps to let him go home with his mom...

Answer 4

I am sure I will not be any help for you but please calm down. Taking your life is not worth it. Talk to your aunt and see if she can rush the process. Unfortunatly they will probably listen to her over you because she is an adult. A few months may see like forever but the rest of your life will be nothing if you make a bad mistake. I wish you the best of luck. I am sure that if your aunt accepts she can get temporary custoday of you. Best of Luck, stay strong, and don't give up!

Answer 5

try getting some support here : www.soulofadoption.com there are alot of adoptive parents there who know about the system of adopting, the process, how long it takes etc. maybe they can help you.

Answer 6

If you are seriously thinking about suicide, GET HELP!  Cook County child services is understaffed and overwhelmed like every other big city child services agency.  They will get the home inspection scheduled and done, but it won't happen quickly.  It is your turn to learn some patience.  There are reasons you are not living with your parents, and the reasons are probably related to their problems, not yours.  Your aunt can get temporary custody if she passes the home inspection and can show that she can support you.  Some states budget absolutely no money to help out with family placements.  I'm not sure about Illinois.

Answer 7

stay strong not many people can handle wat you do and you're extremely courageous for carrying on like you are dont let anything get you down everything will turn out just fine find a hobby like writing or reading to pass the time and talk to your aunt and see if she can get them to speed it up stay strong and dont give up hope.

Answer 8

Whatever you don't commit suicide.  Nothing is worth losing your life over.  So your childhood is crappy.  So was mine, and it still is.  But I still have my good days and so will you.  You didn't say you were being abused.  If you are being abused you need to tell the authorities now, but if not and you are just unhappy with life, just try to tough it out until you can get your aunt to take you.

Answer 9

I am going to assume that you are in IL DCFS foster care....

You can ask your Attrorney to petition the court to have them get temporary gurardianship of you while the Home Study is being completed.  Your Casworker will have to do the necessary background checks to make sure they have no criminal or abusive history but that is something I did as a Caseworker when I worked for IL DCFS.

Don't "snap" and what will you get out of suicide???  Then you will never be able to live with your Aunt and your Aunt would be devastated.  If you have a Therapist you should tell her what yo uare thinking so that she can keep you safe.  Good luck.

Answer 10

Just be patient & I know that's hard to hear but it's what you need to do.  

I doubt your foster parents are really that bad...I'm a foster (and biological and adoptive) parent & I'm sure that at some point or another all of my kids have thought that I was annoying for giving them guidance or discipline...and that I didn't care about them.  Frankly it's BECAUSE I care that I set boundaries and give discipline when they don't stay within the boundaries.

You don't say how old you are but this is probably partially a normal adolescent thing.  All of my kids (except the one who hasn't entered adolescence yet) have gone through it.  It's even harder when you're a foster child, though, and you want desperately to be somewhere else.

You need to see about getting in some counseling to help you deal with the wait & all the emotions you're feeling that are related to it.  Your suicide comment really concerns me & you need to talk to an adult -- your foster parent, your social worker, your guidance counselor at school, a youth leader, your doctor, a counselor or someone!

The last thing you want to do is to sabotage your current placement - it won't get you moved to your aunt's any sooner -- it will probably delay it, in fact.  Just keep sticking to the rules, be polite and cooperative and when the time comes you'll get the move you desire.

Answer 11

Please remember taking your life is not a good idea......your life will be back on track in no  time and then you would be surprised at how time flew by to begin with.....I wish you all the Luck and God Bless You!!!!! Remember all good things are worth the wait....