Seriously who do you think told on the man you molested me years ago?it wasnt me because my family never told

Question

I couldn’t wait to ask a question today… it may be a bit confusing… but bare with me… last night I was on dogwatch… that’s the site that shows how many s*x offenders are your neighborhood… so im looking in my district and something in mind told me to look and see about where the guy who molested me when I was younger … if he was on there… I swear to you all…I didn’t expect him to be on there because I didn’t press charges neither did my parents(his wife was a family friend to my sibling) but he was on there 4 degree sexual offense multiple variables (I don’t know what the degrees nor multiple varibles mean at all) but this would be the 10th year since the incident(MOLESTATION) hes now in jail which is good and it says on his record that his offense day was on early December 1998 but I was molested by him the day before Christmas and if it was 4 degree he would’ve been out of jail by now, and he was not in jail in 1998 nor 1999 so im thinking either his wife told on him(the molestation happened while she was there in the home and her little daughter was in the room while it was happening) ( after I told her about what happened on the cellphone, it was a bit odd (her reaction) because she wasnt mad like a woman whose husband was accused of molestation, it was like this was something he did before and she already knew about it she was non chalant… her family even thought I was lying until they since her expression on the phone)she said she was sorry it ever happen and ask me was I gonna press charges… after she said that a year later she became pregnant again, and after the second daughter was born she took the children left him and no one knew why she left (and so they say they didn’t know why) she now lives in an undisclosed area and has remarried What do you think happened? Do you think the wife probably pressed the charges? if so, I really want to thank her so much? I wonder was he doing something else like was he messing with his own kids? Although I do think about that day a lot I didn’t let it get in my way of my progress and my behavior…Im now a teacher who would never treat my students that way… I can now move on better now that I know that their was justice.

Answer 1

well the wife could have told on him because she was just fed up with him and all. Or he did it to another girl and her parents turned him in. But there is no way of knowing unless you ask his wife. But since he is jail and all I wont worry about it too much. He will always be watched and he will never be able to do that to another person again.  

Answer 2

A dear friend of mine who had two boys from a previous relationship found a man who she thought was perfect. everybody liked him, he was great with the kids, he was good to her. They married and had a little girl.

When her daughter was about 2, my friend found out her 'perfect man' had been molesting her youngest son for several years. she had no idea it was hapening until her son told her.

when she called his sister and said she couldn't believe he had done these things, the man's sister told my friend that he had done the same thing to a family member years ago. they had all agreed to keep it quiet.

as a teacher, you need to let your students know that the victim is never at fault in such cases. some people have something wrong with them.

when a case of molestation or rape goes un-reported, the only person that gains from this is the perpetrator.

every time he gets away with it is another chance to do it again.

the man that molested you probably molested dozens of girls. any of them could have turned him in.

Answer 3

girlfriend...forget that and go enjoy life !! don't give that creep a second thought !! best wishes !!

Answer 4

Well the wife could have been the one who turned him in into the police... But it could also be that you might have not been his only victim... Just be glad that he is behind bars now where he cant hurt anyone else.

Answer 5

Most likely, this pedophile has been offending all along and you were just one of his many victims. He was most likely caught-and tried. I believe you could still press charges if you wanted.

I'm glad that you won't let his mistakes and guilt ruin your life.  Stay strong!