Severing ties with my mother in law?

Question

My husband and i have decide that we don't want her involved with our child at all or until she proves that she can be at least respectful to me and she is telling everyone that i am the witch who stole her son and i am brainwashing him and that i am a cheater and that kind of stuff she tries to compete with me over her sons affections. My husband has decided he's had enough of his mother abusive behavior towards me. He told her don't call and don't come to the house. He told me that he thinks his mom is mentally ill and he doesn't want that kind of person around his daughter whom i am pregnant with. His dad and stepmother love me to death and say that they are so excited for grand babies and glad that i am, carrying the baby and glad that we made through cause his mom has tried everything to break us up. if you think we are being harsh let me know. The last straw was we went over to her house and she had a girl over there and she was trying to set my husband up with her in front of me. We left immediately and haven't spoke to her since.

Answer 1

It is hard to cut contact with relatives and yes she is wrong to do this. Sounds like ya all need Dr Phil

Answer 2

You are wise to cut off contact. She could ruin your baby. Change your phone number, the locks on your door even move if you have to but thank goodness your husband supports you and is not a mamas boy like some on this site are described. Do not even feel the least bit guilty as she is evil and maybe nuts but thats not our business.

Answer 3

Your husband sounds like he may have hit the nail on the head by suggesting that she isn't mentally stable.  Very difficult for anyone to severe ties with their family members but is necessary at times.  If your man can talk some sense into his mom and get her to seek some form of counseling then things may improve over time.  But if she is going to continue speaking this way of you then she is certainly not doing anything  to help things out at all. Perhaps once the baby is here she may start to realize what she is missing out on but I wouldn't hold my breath waiting for this to happen.  Congrats on baby and best of luck.

Answer 4

Okay, so what is the issue or question? It sounds like both you and your husband are handling this appropriately and offering her avenues to make things right, when she is ready.

Answer 5

its too bad she is like that,,,issues with mother in laws are very difficult and very hard to handle...but if she is like that now..i doubt she'll change..unless after the baby is  born...she changes her mind...but for my experience old people never change....they are the way they are...you just have to live your life...you have way more important things in your life...you baby on the way..your own family to care for...so dont worry...right now theres nothing you can do...just ignore her comments...you are pregnant and should not get upset...

congratulation on you baby..

Answer 6

U go girl (and hubby).  You're doing the right thing.

Answer 7

Great decision and wow that is terrific your husband is behind you.  My husband and I moved out of state and one of the  factors was to get away from his mom and sister. Your motherinlaw x2!  Over the years I just was determined to be civil in any interactions with them and the space helped a lot!  When we moved back his mom was an angel!  She was so sweet and kept giving me little odds and ends and making an effort to be positive.  She died after we had been back for four months and I am so glad I got to grow to love her!  But still space and civility with the sister haha.  I understand the frustration, anger , and amazement of how some one could be that way.  Congratulations  on your baby.  I wish you serenity!

Answer 8

jeez what a ******.  you definitely shoudn't let her around your baby untill that b*tch can change.  oh, and its good that you have your husband to be with you and hes not on your mom's side.

Answer 9

I applaud your husband. and you should be very thankful to have a man willing to stand by you no matter who gets in the way.  until she changes her ways, stand by your guns.

Good luck to you all.