s*x, Drugs, Friends or School and Be Hated?

Question

Ok here's the situation. Theres a 15 year old boy who is turning 16 in month and going into grade 11. Isn't really talkative, likes to be the best, likes a couple of sports, gets high over 95% averages. Should he get involved with friends, drugs and s*x, be bad, and what ever and parties and what not, especially when the family is islamic, or concentrate on school and get good marks and join every club and be the "best", especially when the family is forcing you and be hated by the students at school and have no time for fun or friends?

What's your opinion and advice to help out this teen?

Thanks!

Answer 1

From my experience, partying gets one NOWHERE. The supposed "fun" is temporal, s*x and drugs are addicting and ruin your life and perceptions. I would say the boy should continue to learn and prepare for a more lasting and beneficial future even if punks don't like him. Respect your Islamic values.

Answer 2

It should be obvious that this teen must not use drugs or alcohol. This teen may not do that, or have s*x. Friends are fine, but drugs and s*x underage are not. Concentrate on school and your "good" friends.

Answer 3

Do both. Its all about balance. You dont want your life to be all about academics and pleasing your parents, but you also can't go outrageous hardcore party animal. Do your school work on weekdays, and save the weekends for partying.

Answer 4

He shouldn't have s*x before marriage because it goes against his religion. He shouldn't do drugs because it will s***w him up, I'm certain I will lose a close friend to it someday to drugs. He shouldn't drink because I believe that is against Islam as well, and if it isn't it's still bad. When people get drunk they do stupid things.

I have lots of friends. I have never had s*x, drunk or did drugs. A lot of my friends haven't did any of the stuff either. There is no reason for this person to seclude himself from people, but no reason to make stupid choices either.

Answer 5

Just because you phrase the choices in either/or terms doesn't mean those are the only options.  Nice try, though.  I would be surprised if there weren't at least a few other students in his school with the same interests and the same standards as this 15 year old boy.  The noisy popular drug-toking party people tend to seem like they represent the whole school simply because they get in your face so much.  That makes it hard for the quiet, serious ones to stand out, but they're there, in every school.

The important thing to remember is that high school is only temporary.  High school accomplishments, popularity, even the Honor Society pin, mean nothing once you graduate.  Self-discipline, learning skills and self-respect last forever.

Answer 6

Can't he do some partying while still concentrating on school?

Forget the drugs, that is bad stuff you don't ever want to get into. Just because you have friends and go to parties doesn't mean you get high and have s*x. Be smart or tell the boy to be smart.

Go to parties only on Friday's and weekends, then work on your studies the weekdays and free time over the weekends.

Join sports clubs to make friends if you/he doesn't already have them. I suggest to not become a druggie s*x crazed maniac, but definitely expand your social life!

You only live once.

-Catherine

p.s. If he is Islamic, tell him to respect his religion. No s*x before marriage =D

Answer 7

Let's see... unpopularity for a few years and a future or popularity and lower middle class for the rest of your life?

Your decision.